Relationships and Sex

I’ve been asked to talk about relationships and sex about my own personal views. How has it differed from back when I was younger till now because they notice my writing has changed and why? I appreciate the people who have been following me for some time now and thanks, This is how I see Relationships and Sex.

At the age of ten I became sexually active so I was an early bloomer and have been sexually active since then. Intercourse from ten till around seventeen was just intercourse and it was addicting because of the dopamine release, I was essentially active every single day. This lead for me to gain experience from different partners but intercourse was Vanilla and the traditional positions; but I had a flair for danger and getting away with it. Around the age of seventeen I got into trouble and everything changed. I tend to look at this time as how I was and how I am now. I changed most of my demeanor and started to read, meditate, aiming for something higher, take risks. Sex within itself became deeper and had more meaning. I was taught rough sex, a bit of tantra, a little bit of Bondage and partners who were more into sadism. I remember intercourse would only last from 3-10 minutes when I was young and on average that is how long most males last, but then it is biological unless you learn otherwise. My preferences where off course fast paced intercourse at that time, now I prefer intercourse to be more sensual, rough, and alternate speed to expand intercourse into thirty – forty minutes. I believe in enjoying a partner as long as possible and seeing how far you could take them.

Relationships is vastly different and come in many different forms. When I was a teenager I believed in monogamy and was firm on my belief. At that age I did date here and there and I understood how to “keep” a relationship going. They never lasted because of my over highly sexual libido at that time and also for many insecurities I had when I was younger. I don’t date now as often and very rarely do I consider dating. Women have to catch my attention mentally, emotionally, physically for me to really desire to date. I care for all my partners; but only two have taken me that deeply. My intimate relationships now are more fulfilling and I get to understand my partners at a deeper level. I won’t deny the fact that I still do believe in monogamy to the extent that you understand a women sexuality is different from social norms. I believe to stay in a long-term relationship at least for me it will have to be someone liberal as me and who is highly sexual and is open to trying many new things. I think intimately I believe relationships are there to help you grow and expand and not become a routine.

My personal views on relationships and sex? I think it comes down to who you are as a person. The intercourse and communication and understanding only came from knowledge and applying that knowledge. I essentially changed myself and I understand there is still much more to understand and grow. I never understood that your life is a reflection of who you are; then it dawned on me one day when I was asking myself what has changed. I don’t know how else to put this, but if you don’t take the risk or believe in yourself to get what you want or desire you will never know what would’ve have been. I mean this in relationships and sex; I personally believe in doing what you want. This is the reason why I attract the partners I attract; find something that makes you attractive but it has to be a reflection of who you are.

At end there is so much to learn and grasp and understand. I wouldn’t be here if it wasn’t for my mentors and friends and family. I had the opportunity to be with some very wonderful women; I have learned a lot and continue to learn and grow. Be the best you can be I believe so when you meet is a no brainer:}.

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Sex, Sex, Sex

Sex Sex Sex
Yes this is a Sex and Relationship blog, I had a dream and I felt inspired to share this. 
Sometimes we forget the simple things in life are the most rewarding. At times we forget are partner touch or if your not with that person we forget those valuable moments of intimacy. The moments of exctasy as two bodies unite as one. As emotions transferred from one another and fluids are exchanged and being vulnerable with one another. Sex is this and much more.
Feeling the aroma of your partner, looking into another person eyes seeing the reflection of yourself within them knowing you are one. There smile making your day brighter as it reminds you how a smile could make a difference. Feeling there hair, hearing there voice, missing them. Remembering lost memories that once where, focusing on the good days when the sun was shinning. Seeing there eyes shine as they express there happiness with you; showing you new things, food, aromas, passions, places, sexuality, spirituality. 
Letting desire fill your veins as you touch your partner and caress there body, penetrating gently as you gain speed and momentum hearing groans and moans as it fills your mind and this primal feeling becomes awaken. Letting them feel your intensity as you look at them observing the perfection within this moment you are sharing. Enjoying one another as such a deep intimate level, feeling the depth of your soul yearning to be fulfilled becoming one with another as every movement is made. 
Grabbing them and holding them in place against the wall, biting there neck as the pain is felt but the pleasure taking its place. Blindfolding them, tying there hands, feet, letting them trust you. Caressing there body, taking your time, there no rush when enjoying someone. Being rough, spanking, hair pulling, deep penetration, letting the primal instincts take over and letting your neighbors know

your animal. Loving is shown in many different ways, Tender? Rough? Spiritual? 

Let yourself go fully, so when you partner remembers. Let them know the good memories, even supreme intelligence was taking notes from what you did to them. 
Have fun and enjoy yourself. No regrets. 

Best Sex Positions?

I was asked what are the best sex positions that I would recommend? I smiled and laughed and said it isn’t about the position is about your perspective. It’s your attitude and perspective toward something that makes your experience and that makes your idea about it. Yes certain positions allow for more stimulation than others, but it really comes down to how you interpret situations.

Imagine what I am about to describe, if you’re a man imagine a women doing cow-girl and if you’re a women lets say you are riding him. Imagine your with this amazing women who you just love to be with. She is on top enjoying herself as she moans to the world and is saying your name. She is touching herself slowly as you see her hair going side to side. You are captivated about her sexuality and the way she is moving herself knowing she is enjoying herself. Now she is grinding on you as you guys make eye contact she leans into you as she kisses you slowly and passionately. Now imagine the same situation and you are thinking you are bored, it’s okay sex and it isn’t all that. Matter of fact you are in your own mind thinking what to do next! The only difference is your thought process.

One of the things is to change your perspective, I personally found this hard until I started to meditate. I have been meditating for about three years now and here and there I have stopped to see the difference. When I stop meditating I notice I become more emotional and make very impulsive decisions and the way I am changes. On the opposite end when I meditate I become very relaxed and calm and behave rather different. I also have more control over myself and my thought process. I recommend meditating to enjoy sexuality a little more or if you just want to relax and be more calm. It really comes down to how you think about things that’s why meditation helps a lot.

To be sincere most common intercourse comes from this positions Missionary, Doggy-Style, Cow-girl, Eagle Spread. All other’s are just modifications from this positions and what could make intercourse more appealing is just the locations in which you have intercourse. Yes the partner you are with also counts; but what I notice what really counts is how you see things. So what is the best position? That really depend on how you see intercourse and who you are with.

Helping Animals

I am part of organization in which I am lucky to be part off, I was introduced by a women who is part of the organization and today I had a meeting which I didn’t need to attend too but I decided too. I was promoted recently to higher position and had a say about what ideas to follow. I am aware that within the organization there is a lot of human right projects and many projects to help out children in third world countries. As being promoted I was called upon to the front and speak out an idea which could help better improve this world.

Speaking affront of three hundred people I was feeling a little nervous, but I was thinking to myself do you still got this? I thought what could be something that has never been said before and could improve the world even if its minor? I said animals, a man spoke up and said what about animals? Animals are beings put down all across the United States daily because we need more room and have ” Little resources”. I believe we could find another way and measurement and save animals. It isn’t fair that animals are being put down in such way; they are beings and understand. If you look at an animal being put down you see sadness in their eyes. As we have souls so do animals, everything has a purpose and a place here. Animals protect us and we put them down when we don’t need them or because they don’t look cute? Would you like to be put down because you become ¬†“Useless”. They understand when you are sad, happy, and mad and try to cheer you up. They could become your companions and many of you have pets don’t you? ( I was rather surprised how well I said this). I knew instantly I found my drive back.

The people were rather moved and asked how can we do this? We could start in California start building sanctuaries in major cities in where animals are rescued and brought there to be taken care off and adopted. They should be seen as perfect and equal to any other animal regardless of how they are. We will start in Los Angeles, San Diego, San Fransisco and if there no room in the cities we could make them in neighboring cities or counties. We would save millions and the expenditure could be a non-profit. Then see the success rate and expand to other 49 States and lead by example and have families adopt the animals. We have to see animals as equal as human beings and not mistreat them or see them for less. I got a round of applause and three ideas are always chosen for as long as I have been here. My idea was picked and the project will be under way by June.

Later I was eating and a homeless individual started talking to me before I sat down. I asked him to sit with me and he appreciated it. I could see he was hungry so I gave him half my food, he told me I am a good friend. I laughed and told him thanks. We had a short talk and I asked him for his wisdom in life? He told me ” Treat everyone as equal regardless of skin, religion, or how they look, we are all the same”. I smiled and felt this humbleness of him and I asked him if enjoyed the food. He answered off course there not that many nice people in the world, I smiled and said you just have to open your eyes a little more. (Laughter from both of us).

Regardless of who you are man, women, in between, ethnicity, color we shouldn’t¬†discriminate. You would be surprised what you could learn from other people, at the end we work better when we actually work together regardless of who you are. It’s rather ignorant to put someone down because they are a certain way. Open your eyes a little more and you will see better.

Many Souls, Many Partners

This will be personal post, with the permission with a previous partner I will be writing about an experience that I will never forget. This will also be a little explicit so if you aren’t mature then click back. A few years back I met a women who captivated my attention on all three levels. She caught my attention mentally, emotionally, and most of all physically. We started talking over the internet due to this blog, it became apparent right away that she was smart and rather fascinating to talk too. A few months passed by this way because we where far apart from one another. Nonetheless the interest was rather mutual and pictures, facetiming was happening rather fast. It is really rare for me to connect with someone who fast and off course not even meeting in person; this off course led me to want to meet in person.

After some problems and being persistent we met in person in December 23, 2015. We met in a coffee shop where she was sitting down with her right leg over her left, waiting for me to arrive. She was wearing black boots, light blue jeans which clung to her body perfectly, had a green sweater over a black shirt if I remember correctly. Her long black hair that reached her shoulder’s, brown eyes, small lips which looked kissable, dimples,light brown skin. Had a bit of makeup on, light eyeliner, red lipstick. From afar I notice this and she seemed rather calm and confident and composed. This off course caught my interest and I approached and sat down. When sitting down I notice the calmness I seen was overtaken by nervousness and shyness. She started speaking rather rapidly about different things, this came out of being nervous. I was intruged about the diverse topics she was speaking about. This led me to become more intruged intellectually not just physically. Her smile was captivating and liberal attitude brought me to really sit down and contemplate why I was so intruged.

A few hours passed by and the conversation continued, we decided to leave to the beach. While at the beach I got more physical and she was shy and hesitant, but I understood why. Even before we met in person my interest was there and in person it was just confirmed. She is rather spiritual and spoke about soul mates and things I have never heard of before. I have read a few books about the subject, but her level of understanding was more deeper. It made me contemplate if this women came into my life for much more, I did learn a lot within a few months. Yes it’s those persons that have a big effect on your life and could turn things rather rapidly. I started wondering how much control do I really have over my life, there are things that are hard to explain. Nonetheless I still believe in are decisions make things happen.

Are time was limited and we ended going to her place, I didn’t know what to expect. She was showing me her room. At this point I turned her around from her left arm and started to kiss her passionately. I didn’t desire to wait, I knew the desire was there and I wanted her. As I thought her lips where more than kissable, but rather addicting. Caressing her thighs and legs I new she had a nice physique. I throw her onto the bed and I seen her eyes lit up with desire and excitement, like something she been waiting for. As I undressed her I bit into her neck rather roughly more than I usually do hearing her groan I new I was going to enjoy myself. I don’t tend to leave marks, but I left marks all over her body. As the clothe flew all over and seeing her naked it was rather a sight to see. Seeing a fully developed women and her letting herself go with me was rather a moment. Something within me felt this urge to have her; as I penetrated her I could hear her asking for more. Her body arching as I went in her and her body moving with mine in synch. I have never felt the urge to go deeper than potentially possible, as corny as it may sound I wanted to become one with her. I have never felt that deep calling to want to do that, throughout the whole time we where making eye contact, kissing one another like we have been starving for sex for years. Feeling her wetness and hearing her call out my name was an aphrodisiac, my desire to have her became deeper. I started to caress her breast as I moved deeper and deeper into her, I found someone that enjoy’s deep penetration. I wasn’t planning to cum anytime soon; I was going to enjoy myself while I roughly pounded into her.

After some time she desired to be on top and I was impressed. As soon as she got on top she went full throttle. I have never seen a women ride the way she did, going rather very fast and seeing her cleavage jump and as she caressed herself. Seeing her enjoy herself the way her facial expression changed and her moaning turning into grunting. She didn’t stop just kept grinding and jumping while she enjoyed her sexuality. Her hair was moving side to side it was rather an image and memory that I will never forget. There is something very erotic about seeing a women enjoy herself to such a level that it becomes an aphrodisiac. As are bodies synched and I became more aggressive I through her onto the bed flipped her onto her stomach got her by her waist and pulled her onto to me. I slapped her ass a couple of times, her skin is rather delicate and I wanted her to remember me. I penetrated her again and she moaned loudly and asking me to give her everything. I grabbed her by the waist and brought her into me as she clinched the covers and moaned into the bed, I couldn’t her but grunt as my aggression become more and more. Slapping her ass and leaving my hand prints on it aroused her and asked me to not stop. Pulling her hair with my right hand and with my left holding her tightly she loud a groan. She arched her back and moved her hips into me, I felt how deep I was but she didn’t care. She wanted to cum and so did I, she was asking me to let myself go and let her feel me inside her. As I came into her I knew I found someone who could keep up with me.

Sex is an amazing experience, I hope everyone could enjoy themselves.

Sexual Fluidity

I believe that we have all had a friend that at some point was Heterosexual, Homosexual, or Bisexual and went in a whole different direction after some time. It made me wonder how someone sexuality could change so dramatically, is it biological or just the environment. So far there isn’t a whole single answer, but I am starting to think there isn’t just one answer. As humans we are complex beings and one single answer might not encompass are sexuality even thought we like to think there is just one answer.

Is sexuality just due to in environment and opportunity or biological? Well According to Lisa M. Diamond ” Similarly, in the late 1970s the sociologist Philp Blumestein and Pepper Schwartz conducted a groundbreaking study of more than 150 men and women with bisexual patterns of sexual behavior. They found that thought some of their respondents had experienced same-sex desires for many years, others appeared to have undergone major changes in their sexual attractions. They concluded that early childhood influences on sexuality ( whatever they may be) were not immutable, and that most individuals were unaware of their own capacity for change in sexuality over time.” I found this intriguing specially due to the fact that the sexual revolution only started ten years prior. Also something that stood out to me is how can someone change their sexual orientation or not be aware that it could change with time. Could it be that the curiosity was already there? Or is it just a hormonal change with time that activates?

Within the book Sexual Fluidity by Lisa M. Diamond describes what Fludity means. According to Lisa M. Diamond Fludity is defined ” Sexual fluidity, quite means situation-dependant flexibility in women’s sexual responsiveness. This flexibility makes it possible for some women to experience desires for either men or women under certain circumstances, regardless of their overall sexual orientation.” Essentially women Sexuality could change at times depending on the environment or what is happening in their life. I also think that even thought this book is on women sexuality, it could happen to males as well. Even thought it seems like males tend to stick to certain orientations throughout their life’s. This does this mean all women could be bisexual? Lisa M. Diamond says ” No. Fludity can be thought of as an additional component of a women’s sexuality that operates in concert with sexual orientation to influence how her attractions, fantasies, behaviors, and affections are experienced and expressed over the life course. Fluidity implies not what women’s desires are endlessly variable but that some women are capable of a wider variety of erotic feelings and experiences than would be predicted on the basis of their self described sexual orientation alone.”

Lisa M. Diamond does go into brain structures and hormonal changes. I was aware that alteration to the brain could make an individual act differently than before, ” Returning to the neuroendocrine theory, extensive animal research has shown that androgens and estrogens secreted by the developing fetal genitals play a fundamental role in sexual differentiation in mammalian brains. Furthermore, alterations in fetal hormone exposure have been associated with alterations in animals adults sexual behaviors. Specifically, male-typed sexual behavior in female animals has been associated with abnormally high levels of prenatal androgen exposure, whereas female-typed sexual behavior in male animals has been associated with abnormally low levels of androgen exposure.” Essentially hormonal changes just the slightest could affect animals sexual behaviors. This made me contemplate with all of are processed food how does it affect us, not to mention he substances we put within ourself. ” This findings has led researches to speculate that similar processes might operate for humans, such that same-sex sexual orientation might reflect alterations in brain “masculinization” or “feminization” owing to altered prenatal hormones environments.” The neuroendocrine theory is arguing that are sexuality is already predestined, due to hormones. The problem with this is that as humans we are more complex than animals; even thought we are still animals.

The book Sexual fluidity is very intriguing and I did skip much information. The author doesn’t agree with ether environment or are genes define are sexuality. Rather that it takes many factors and much-needed research is still needed. I Think that it could be both also; even thought genetics has a big say in are makeup; we could still change and as humans we do. I do understand that women and males at times aren’t certain why they are attracted to individuals that probably before they wouldn’t have found them attractive. It could be confusing for them, just know that you decide what you do with your life and don’t let others tell you what is right or wrong.

references

Diamond M. Lisa,(2009) Sexual Fluidity, USA, Harvard University Press