I have always been intriguing about why individuals stray or cheat and it makes me wonder if it’s biological? If something was so natural to us to be monogamous then why go long length to seek something else out? It makes me just ponder if it is out of fear based or a socially constructed idea of having marriage.
“And yet, despite repeated assurances that women aren’t particularly sexual creatures, in cultures around the world men have gone to extraordinary lengths to control female libido: female genital mutilation, head-to-toe chador, medieval witch burnings, chastity belts, suffocating corsets, muttered insults about “insatiable” whores, pathologizing, paternalistic medical diagnoses of nymphomania of hysteria, the debilitating scorn heaped on any female who chooses to be generous with her sexuality..all parts of a worldwide campaign to keep the supposedly low-key female libido under control. Why the electrified high-security razor wire fence to contain a kitty-cat?” It always makes me wonder why hide the fact that women are highly sexual beings?
How did we get to the ideas we have today about mating, dating, sexuality? “Marriage,” mating,” and “love” are socially constructed phenomena that have little or no transferable meaning outside any given culture. The examples we’ve noted of rampant ritualized group sex, mate-swapping unrestrained casual affairs, and socially sanctioned sequential sex were all reported in cultures that anthropologists insist are monogamous simply because they’ve determined that something they call “marriage” takes place there. No wonder so many insist that marriage, monogamy, and the nuclear family are human universals. With such all-encompassing interpretations of the concepts, even the prairie vole, who “sleeps with anyone” would qualify.” It’s interesting how we hide the other things that happen behind closed doors.
Is being with one individual really natural? Or is it having open relationships more common? ” No group-living nonhuman primate is monogamous, and adultery has been documented in every human culture studied including those in which fornicator are routinely stoned to death. In light of all this bloody retribution, it’s hard to see how monogamy comes “naturally” to our species. Why would so many risk their reputations, families, career- even presidential legacies for something that runs against human nature? Were monogamy an ancient, evolved train characteristics of our species, as the standard narrative insists, these ubiquitous transgressions would be infrequent and such horrible enforcement unnecessary. No creature needs to be threatened with death to act in accord with its own nature”.
It makes me wonder if is fear or is a socially constructed ideas that we have about dating and how we manage are interpersonal relationships.
Christopher,Ryan. (2010) Sex At Dawn. US. HarperCollins