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Art Of Seduction

The picture is from Washington, was there last year on today’s date. Rather symbolic to me, nonetheless I will be speaking about two stories today which have been bugging me lately. 

Yesterday around 8:30 pm I met a rather intriguing male of the age of forty. His occupation is a high paid Plastic surgeon doctor which he was rather very energetic but stern at the same time. I figured due to the stressful occupation. Conversation was rather lengthy but it was directed towards women towards the end. Interestingly he mentioned that he is a virgin due to a inferior complex which started due to him getting rejected for prom. Speaking to him he rather seemed like a genuine nice individual with a successful career who is alone due to insecurities. While mentioning that he wished to enter a relationship.

I believe three- four days ago I noticed a young women who facial expression, vibe was rather sad. It earnestly bugged me to see her downright sad. As I approached her and started to understand her sadness. In previous hours she broke up with her boyfriend due to lack of interest from his side while being douche while neglecting her. The women is African American, 5″6, around 120, athletic physique and gorgeous green eyes which made me wonder if he is blind or insecure. Making her mood better I started to see a very generous women who had a great contagious aura. 

While both situations are different I noticed both healthy individuals who desired to be around someone. I have noticed this among different individuals which it disturbs because regardless of the type of relationship you have, being intimate is almost fundamental to are health. It’s rather saddening to see good individuals not being able to find someone for which ever reason. 

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Masturbation Bad For Women?

In recent history “hysteria” was used to reference a women who was irrational to the point that only orgasm would alleviate her from the disease which comes natural to a women sexuality? “The term “Hysteria” comes from a Greek word meaning simply ‘that which proceeds from the uterus’.” Yes I found this rather fascinating how an orgasm could alleviate a women from a disease.

In essence till the 1900’s this was the perspective for 2,500 years on hysteria (Women Sexuality). ” Hysteria was a set of symptoms that varied greatly between individuals (and their physicians), including but not limited to fainting (syncope), edema or hyperaemia ( congestion caused by fluid retention, either localized or general), nervousness, insomnia, sensations of heaviness in the abdomen, muscle spasms, shortness of breath, loss of appetite for food or for sex with the approved male partner, and sometimes a tendency to cause trouble for others, particularly members of the patient’s immediate family. The disorder was thought to be a consequence of lack of sufficient sexual intercourse, deficiency of sexual gratification, or both. Physicians committed to the androcentric model of sexuality were inclined to conflate these two etiologies and to prescribe treatment accordingly.” I find it rather intriguing how low sexual gratification could lead a women to have hysteria. How women behave rather “Irrational”, while hysteria was only curable with a partner not just by yourself.

Apparently Hysteria has been a rather huge deal in the medical field for sometime. ” Hysteria appears in the medical corpus as early as 2000 B.C. In Egypt, but it was not until the time of Hippocrates in the fifth century B.CC that the western clinical definition of the disorder began to take shape. In the Hippocratic corpus, hysteria is a disease of the womb, treatable with exercise and massage. Plato’s reference to hysteria as a disease caused by the uterus,  “an animal inside an animal,” is well-known. By the time of Celsus and Soranus in the first century A.D., genital massage and exercise, usually passive, were standard prescriptions for hysteria. Soranus advocated manipulating the groin and pubic area.” A rather interesting insight in the fact of stimulating the vagina and clitoris would be advocated by the individuals mentioned above to cure hysteria. ” Aretaeus Cappodox, writing a century later on mania as a chronic disease, discusses the cause of ailment, asserting that “women… become affected with mania from want of purgation of the system, when the uterus has attained its full development.” It has to be understandable this was the perspective a long time ago, but has anything really changed?

Not to mentioned if you are more indulgent of sexual gratification of the senses you are more likely to catch hysteria more frequently. ” Galen ( ca. A.D. 129-200), the physician’s physician for centuries after his death, described hysteria as a uterine  disease caused by sexual deprivation, to which passionate women were particularly susceptible. This theme of female sexuality as pathology was to reappear in various forms in later centuries. He describes in detail a genital massage therapy, resulting in contractions and the release of fluid from the vagina, after which the patient was relieved of her symptoms. His account is literally the classic description of massage therapy for hysteria, which was to be repeated almost verbatim in later texts and to be regarded as therapeutic gospel in some medical circles until the end of the nineteenth century.”

It makes one wonder if women sexuality has been repressed for fear of what actually lie within thru all this centuries. Then off course masturbation was rather a great way to relieve hysteria, that women ‘needed’ someone else to help. ” Marriage was the best remedy, but if all else failed, masturbation to orgasm was indicated: “According to Avicenna the cure was efficacious only if the sensations of coitus that is, pleasure and pain, were felt. Medieval doctors generally omitted to refer to this aspect of the treatment when recommending recourse to manipulation; yet it was evident that the female sexual discharge accompanied orgasm.” One might infer from this passage that Avicenna or his colleagues might have occasionally advocated masturbation by the woman herself. This is not the case.  In the ‘Canon’ he warns of women’s resorting to “rubbing, among other women” as a possible consequence of unsatisfying intercourse; it is clearly not intended as advice on recommended practice for women. The privilege (or drudgery) of such “rubbing” was reserved for husbands, doctors, and midwives.”

If you are not aware until recently women have more freedom and honestly deserve it after much subjugation from society as a whole. Before marriage was apparently the one of the few cures for this disease ” Nor should you wonder at all these things which are natural to women, and are particularly to be expected of the condition of virgins; because of retention of the sexual fluid, the heart and surrounding areas are enveloped in a morbid and moist exudation: this is especially true of the more lascivious females, inclined to venery, passionate women who are most eager to experience physical pleasure; if she is of this type she cannot ever be relieved by any aid except that of her parents, who are advised to find her a husband. Having done so, the man’s strong and vigorous intercourse alleviated the frenzy. She married an energetic young man, who, having discharged his martial responsibilities with vigor, she took to this with enthusiasm; under the appropriate treatment she flourished, revived, bloomed with the rosy shade of well-bein, and was entirely restored to health.”

It isn’t the first time I incounter this form of thinking which I find it hard to understand at times but I am aware that it is individuals perspectives. There isn’t anything wrong with masturbation; unless you off course over do it and condition yourself to only receive that form of climax; which is fine if you desire that. The same with pornography you essentially condition oneself to orgasm with the help of ponography so when the time comes to have actual intercourse it will be not as exciting or rather difficult to participtate in intercourse itself. I still believe women sexuality has been rather suffocated or treated as a crime when it’s rather sensual, fluid, very admirable. If as a society we let women sexuality flourish it would be a rather more healthy society as a whole instead of having fear, human race we would have more secure women that feel home within their own bodies.

reference

Rachel P. Maines.(1999).The Technology Of Orgasm:University Press

History Of The Vibrator

We understand that women sexuality is rather misunderstood also has been apparently misguided for centuries. Until recently masturbation was considered wrong or an unhealthful act for women to reach bliss. Let’s dive a little into how women orgasms has been misunderstood as well as the medical industry this was profitable.

Let’s look into how women orgasms was an extra income for physicians. “Western medicine, described a medical treatment for a complaint that is no longer defined as a disease but that from at the least the fourth century B.C until the American Psychiatric Association dropped the term in 1952, was known as mainly as hysteria. This purported disease and its sister ailments displayed a symptomatology consistent with the normal functioning of female sexuality, for which relief, not surprisingly, was obtained through orgasm, either through intercourse in the marriage bed or by means of massage on the physician’s table.” Essentially due to the fact that most women can’t just orgasm thru penetration alone they required stimulation on the clitoris which is how the vibrator and other instruments were made to help physicians help women dilemma of being unsatisfied.

The vibrator to help with women hysteria (Sexuality) to help reach orgasm. “When the vibrator emerged as an electromechanical medical instrument at the end of the nineteenth century, it evolved from previous massage technologies in response to demand from physicians for more rapid and efficient physical therapies particularly for hysteria. Massage to orgasm of female patients was a staple of medical practice among some(But certainly not all) Western physicians from the time of Hippocrates until the 1920s, and mechanized this task significantly increased the number of patients a doctor could treat in a working day.”  Yes essentially vibrators were primarily made to help women achieve orgasm with the help of doctors.

Another interesting is how not being able to achieve orgasm for women was considered an illness. “Because the androcentric model of sexuality was thought necessary to the pro-natal and patriarchal institution of marriage and had been defended and justified by leaders of the western medical establishment in all centuries at least since the time of Hippocrates, marriage did not always “cure” the “disease” represented by the ordinary and uncomfortably persistent functioning of women sexuality outside the dominant sexual paradigm. This relegated the task of relieving the symptoms of female arousal to medical treatment, which defined female orgasm under clinical conditions as the crisis of an illness, the “hysterical paroxysm. In effect, doctors inherited the task of producing orgasm in women because it was a job nobody else wanted.” Not certain how an individual wouldn’t desire to help a partner reach bliss, rather sad how it is considered a job.

The main points is are how the vibrator came into the market; to cure a disease which was just having an orgasm to cure a women from ‘hysteria’. Also it makes me wonder if in the past till now how many individuals don’t pay attention to the clitoris which has thousands of nerves past superior to anything within the human body. Also how intercourse alone doesn’t necessarily mean women will have an all everlasting orgasm.

reference

Rachel P. Maines.(1999).The Technology Of Orgasm:University Press

Sexual Drive

For variety of reasons a person sexual drive or desire could lessen do to time or just stress. One of the problems common for sex therapist is that a person loses sexual interest in their partner. Many theories and evidence suggest that this could just be a biological reasons; I have been curious why the feeling goes away. For personal reasons I have had seizures and strokes, concussions (Football) which effect (Pre-frontal cortex, hippocampus, amygdala, etc. Essentially personally it was rather difficult for me to feel the emotional drive; within that context I understand individuals who lose interest but for me it wasn’t a choice. (Yes it sucks not feeling much)

Me being very intrigued in intercourse and psychology I was aware that damage to the brain can alter behavior as well as hormonal change. I am not to incline to medicine which has a million side effects. About three years ago I became aware of this man named Markus Rothkranz from a reference which was showing me a new type of diet. For some odd reason I didn’t do the diet untill recently, which I should of been doing. Essentially the diet consists of just fruit and vegetables but blended in a Vitamix so everything is broken down. This breaks down the exterior walls of the plants which lets it release the actual nutrients that vegans aren’t getting because their stomach acid is too weak to break down the walls of the plants. You could only do this in a vitamix because the other blenders won’t shred everything apart, I have tried it before.

Most of the plants I get are “Wild” not from the store but around the neighborhood. I live in a diverse location which is splendid for me. This is the plants that now I take daily and have boosted Mental alertness,body mass, stamina,sexual drive, energy, mood,etc (Within 2 weeks)

Saw Palmetto – This is what is put in Viagra; you could just pick it off blend it in a vitamix and drink it. You want to feel sexual drive? Take This! This is what I am thinking if individuals take this and other plants for sexual drive wouldn’t they already feel it? I believe it is better than lying to people about taking placebo pills.

Aloe Vera – This is god gift. Too many great things

Rosemary – Great for memory and brain function

Barley Grass – Has natural steroids and helps burns energy slower.

Cactus

Grass

Sage – Helps with brain function and cure many diseases that aren’t “Cure able”

Gotu Kola – This is for intelligence and making you feel young. Helps the brain in so many ways.

Dandelion – Is considered a weed, but wow this alone has so many vitamins!

 

Expanded Orgasm – 2

I suggest to refer to the first post for instructions on how to follow the “Breath of Fire”. Be aware that as an individual always keep expanding in every aspect of one own life; you never stop learning and expanding.

The Breathe Of Fire

“The breath of fire is a Kundalini yoga technique. It is a powerfully energizing breath that gets the little neurons in your brain humming as it clears your lungs and cleanses your blood. The breath of fire is aptly named. I usually feel a lot of heat spreading out from the center of my body when I do this breath. This rapid, continuous breath is done entirely through the nose. It can be done in any position, but it’s best learned standing or sitting up with a straight spine. The emphasis of this breath is on the exhale.” I personally enjoy this breath more than the others; while jogging this could really wake you up.

  1. “Exhale. As you exhale, push the air out by rapidly pulling your navel to your spine.”
  2. “To inhale, simply release your navel outward. The breath fills your lungs automatically.”
  3. Put your hand on your diaphragm to focus your attention there and to feel the power of this breathe.”
  4. “Begin with one breath every two seconds; work up to one or two breaths per second.”

Requires a little practice, but I could honestly say it is worth it. The only conflicting part is to consciously do it while having intercourse.

The Heart Breath

  1. “Yawn. Feel how the yawn opens the back of your throat and stretches out your whole mouth and face? That’s the feeling of the openness you want when you do the heart breath.”
  2. “Breath. Let your mouth fall open slightly. Relax your jaw and face, open the back of your throat, and breath in through your mouth, gently but fully.”
  3. “Exhale. Don’t push the breath out; just let it fall out with a gentle little sigh,ahh.”
  4. “Take in a much air as you can, as effortlessly as you can, then let it go.”

Practice the breath till you get remember them and incorporate them into intercourse or masturbation and feel the difference. Remember it does not have to be perfect; just jump in and do it.

reference

Carrellas, Barbara. Urban Tantra: Sacred Sex for the Twenty-first Century. Celestial Arts, 2007

Expanded Orgasm

As a man and a women you could expand your orgasms much more than you are experiencing right now. As I am aware the strongest orgasms have been when I alter my breathing; teaching this to a partner could be more complex but with patience and guidance it could be very powerful. This is taught in Tantra as well in Kama Sutra it just requires conscious focus on breathing thru the nose or the mouth and depending when you use it the effects will vary. There is four type of breaths which I will separate into two posts so in essence two here and two in the next one.

“Breathe through your mouth while you are learning each breath (except for the breath of fire, which is always done through the nose). When you become familiar with the breathes, you can experiment with nose versus mouth breathing.”

The Bottom Breathing

Practice for five to ten minutes

“Bottom breathing is a gentle, easy way to calm you down and open up your senses. It’s the ideal breath to use when you want to move out of the busy or stressful state of doing into the easy, relaxed awareness of being.”

  1. “Sit on the floor with your legs crossed (or on a hardback chair with your feet flat on the floor) and your spine straight. With your hands, pull the fleshy part of your buttocks aside so that you are sitting on your sit bones. (once you learn the breath you can do it in any position.)
  2. “Begin by exhaling all the air out of your lungs.”
  3. “Then, as you inhale, very gently push out on the anal sphincter. Imagine that your anus can “Kiss” the floor or the seat of the chair.”
  4. “On the exhale, don’t do anything. Don’t contract your anus, don’t hold it; don’t push. Do nothing just let it go.

Keep repeating and you will start to feel your body start tingling. This isn’t easy and requires practice as with anything else. One way to implement this while having intercourse or receiving oral is to start breathing into your mouth relaxed; then let go. Reaching orgasm will require more time but the explosive feeling is worth the wait. Be aware that orgasm is a state of mind and feeling while ejaculation is the release of a fluid.

The Circular Breathe

“The essence of the circular breath is breathing in a continuous flow, with no break or pause between the inhale and the exhale. The inhale flows effortlessly into the exhale, which flows seamlessly into the next inhale. You can do this breath sitting, standing, or lying down.” You could imagine this breathe as when you are jogging and breathing into and out of your mouth. As well when intercourse is rough and animatistic is thru the mouth that vocal and breathing is done.

  1. “Breathe gently through your mouth, keeping your jaw relaxed and your lips slightly parted.”
  2. “Feel the back of your throat open and relax. Do not force or push the breath. The inhale will require a bit more effort than the exhale, which should just gently fall out.”
  3. “Imagine your breath making a complete unbroken circle.”

” This breathe is particularly useful for circulating erotic energy around your own body and between yourself and your partners. It builds and moves energy, and it intensifies feelings both emotional and physical”.

For men who desire to not ejaculate which is releasing semen you could consciously breathe thru your nose slowly. Inhale then relax and exhale; this will slow everything down and its practiced while meditating. Which will lower your arousal level, but you will be able to have self-control while being able to sensuously enjoy the person you are with for longer periods of time.

reference

Carrellas, Barbara. Urban Tantra: Sacred Sex for the Twenty-first Century. Celestial Arts, 2007

Life

If you apply this concept into life I believe it could make it more interesting. One of my first teachers sent me a link to a video in which it explains how some individuals see life as something that happen and passed by like if it was just yesterday. I believe that is a sad way to live with no goal or no direction. The link will be at the bottom and you could check it out.

I am aware people love to live day-to-day and not always worry about tomorrow and that is fine everyone has their own structure. The problem I see with this is that it becomes a routine and we stop pushing to see new opportunities. This within itself could become a self fulfilling destiny because are habits do become are destiny.

Don’t forget to push yourself towards something new and drive towards novelty because it will bring upon a new experience. Make a new business, go against social norms(I love this one), do the opposite of what people do, make a new habit, challenge yourself to have sex for two hours, write a book, if something makes sense do the opposite, forget common sense, you want another individual then go for it! Forget social norms; be a daredevil, a pathfinder, carve your own path, what am saying is live life-like it’s an adventure and don’t stop in the familiar. Yes it could be scary, but once you accept everyone is going to die it just a matter of how you want to look back and see what you have accomplished.

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Link To Video

Desire Pill

Have you ever felt desire dwindling or felt you lack sexual drive? I was looking into how to make desire last in a long-term relationship. If the waning of lust or yearning could be brought back. I remember the pharmaceutical companies are creating pills in which would spike women desire back up, essentially the same as what Viagra does to men.

Apparently America is a big market for such pills ” medications, molecules aimed by pharmaceutical giants at the same despair, the feeling of desire’s vanishing, aimed at the same market, worth over four billion dollars a year in America alone”. As well it made me wonder why hasn’t a pill been made yet. It’s also interesting how birth control pills effect some women than others differently ” women whose antidepressants suffocate their desire. He would have a way to understand one of the conundrums of his field: why birth control pills snuffed out sexuality in some– but far from all–women”. It seems like women desire is rather more complex than males.

I wondered if a women desire seems to wain from more of a psychological perspective and why has no pill been approved by the FDA. The mind tends to control the body and sometimes vice versa, as well political has to do with the pills not being approved. ” Another reason was bound up with a David-and-Goliath battle that some therapist saw themselves fighting heroically against the drug industry–against its rush to find, win FDA approval for, and market what is loosely known as a female Viagra. Since the late nineties, when pharmaceutical companies has begun making billions by assisting erections with a chemical that affected the capillaries of the penis, the corporations had been seeking an equivalent for women. But this hadn’t been going smoothly, because women’s sexual problems usually aren’t genital; they’re entrenched in psycholigcal.” If this is true wouldn’t it be as easy as thinking differently? Or is it much deeper than just the thought process and something more biological?

The more political side of it would be society would change dramatically. The resonated with what Goldstein recounted from his involvement with Flibanserin. In Flibanserin’s trials, he hadn’t taken his usual outsider’s role, interviewing women, dispensing medication. He’d been hired as an advisor by the corporation that owned the molecule; he’d been in on strategy sessions. “When you’re going to the FDA with this kind of drug, there’s the sense that you want your effects to be good but not to good.” he said. Too good hadn’t turned out to be Flibanserin’s problem, but, he explained. “There was a lot of discussion about it by the experts in the room, the need to show that you’re not turning women into nymphomaniacs. There’s a bias, a bias against– a fear of creating the sexuality aggressive women. here’s this idea of societal breakdown.” This off course would be very negative to how society been structured for the last millenium or so. As far as we know off course.

As far I am aware the companies have not been able to find a drug that brings desire or lust back within a relationship. There are a few theories of why, I think there is other remedies but it is things I would have to test out first.

refrences

( Daniel,Bergner. What Do Women Want? United States : HarperCollins Publishers Inc. June 2013)

Come As You Are

I am usually curious about how women inhibit their sexuality or I usually try to understand why a women wouldn’t be comfortable in her own body. Everyone has a different answer; let’s look into a book I have found intriguing.

While being raised to some extent I figured women are more sexual than presumed. It made me wonder why then tell women that they are “slutty” or “whore” when they are just expressing themselves? “We’re raising women to be sexually dysfunctional, with all the ‘no’ messages we’re giving them about diseases and shame and fear. And then as soon as they’re eighteen they’re supposed to be sexual rock stars, multiorgasmic and totally uninhibited. It doesn’t make any sense. None of the things we do in our society prepares women for that.” It would make more sense if women are raised to enjoy themselves so they could have more healthy relationships with themselves and with others. You could put a male in the same situation and he would be praised for exploring and enjoying himself.

I found this passage rather interesting “I am done living in a world where women are lied to about their bodies; where women are objects of sexual desire but not subjects of sexual pleasure; where sex is used as a weapon against women; and where women believe their bodies are broken, simply because those bodies are not male. And I am done living in a world where women are trained from birth to treat their bodies as the enemy.” As more information comes out daily it would make sense to bring one another up not down. Yes not everyone is the same, but nonetheless it doesn’t make sense to put someone down. If sex is such a big thing why are people so insecure about talking about it or expressing it? It has to do with social norms and a lot to do how we are brought up from a young age.

At the end the message is the same, we are all the same just different in are own unique way. “We know by now that there’s no such thing as normal—or rather, that we’re all normal. We’re all made of the same parts as everyone else, organized in a unique way. No two alike.”  So I agree to come as you are because in your own each way each one of you are special; if that touched you then smile to someone because you never know what a smile could do.

reference

(Emily Nagoski, Come As You Are, Scribe Publications, 2015)

Female Libido Repressed?

There has always been this argument whether a man has more desire and drive for intercourse than women. I am starting to think the only reason why they say man have more sexual desire is because women are put down from showing sexual desire or to have intercourse. Women have as much sexual drive as any man or even more, ever wondered why women could have multiple orgasms?

I notice many individuals try to hide their sexuality, many individuals care about what other people think of them. I was once read that when you stop caring what other people think you are able to finally live. ” Thought many strive to hide their human libidinousness from themselves and each other, being a force of nature, it breaks through. Lots of uptight, proper Americans were scandalized by the way Elvis moved his hips when he sang “rock and roll.” But how many realized what the phrase rock and roll meant? Cultural historian Michael Ventura, investigating the roots of African-American music, found the rock ‘n’ roll was a term that originated in the juke joints of the south. Long in use by the time Elvis appeared, Ventura explains the phrase “hadn’t meant the name of the music, it meant ‘to fuck.’ ‘Rock,’ by itself, has pretty much meant that, in those circles, since the twenties at least.” By the mid-1950’s, when the phrase was becoming widely used in mainstream culture, Ventura says the disc jockeys “either didn’t know what they were saying or were to shy to admit what they knew.” The thing’s we enjoy its the things we try to suppress.

“Before the war on drugs, the war on terror, or the war on cancer, there was the war on female sexual desire. It’s a war that has been raging far longer than any other, and it’s victims number well into the billions by now. Like the others, it’s a war that can never be won, as the declared enemy is a force of nature. We may as well declare war on the cycles of the moon.” It doesn’t make sense why we try repress a women libido; when if it was released everyone would enjoy one another more. ” Sex for pleasure with various partners is therefore more “human” than animal. Strictly reproductive, once-in-a-blue-moon sex is more “animal” than human. In other words, n excessively horny monkey is acting “human,” while a man or women uninterested in sex more than once or twice a year would be, strictly speaking, “acting like an animal.”

How has societies change with new information and different belief systems? ” Remember the Tenth Commandment: “Thou shalt not covert thy neighbors house, thou shalt not covert thy neighbors wife, nor his manservant, nor his maidservant, nor his ox, nor his as, nor any thing that [is] thy neighbor’s.” Clearly, the biggest loser (aside from slaves perhaps) in the agriculture revolution was the human female, who went from occupying a central respected role in foraging societies to becoming another possession for a man to earn and defend, along with his house, slaves, and livestock.”

As people are becoming more liberal and exploring new ideas; it makes me wonder how society will be in fifty years. Liberate and help as many people as possible to explore the unexplored and give them confidence.

Christopher,Ryan. (2010) Sex At Dawn. US. HarperCollins