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Masturbation Bad For Women?

In recent history “hysteria” was used to reference a women who was irrational to the point that only orgasm would alleviate her from the disease which comes natural to a women sexuality? “The term “Hysteria” comes from a Greek word meaning simply ‘that which proceeds from the uterus’.” Yes I found this rather fascinating how an orgasm could alleviate a women from a disease.

In essence till the 1900’s this was the perspective for 2,500 years on hysteria (Women Sexuality). ” Hysteria was a set of symptoms that varied greatly between individuals (and their physicians), including but not limited to fainting (syncope), edema or hyperaemia ( congestion caused by fluid retention, either localized or general), nervousness, insomnia, sensations of heaviness in the abdomen, muscle spasms, shortness of breath, loss of appetite for food or for sex with the approved male partner, and sometimes a tendency to cause trouble for others, particularly members of the patient’s immediate family. The disorder was thought to be a consequence of lack of sufficient sexual intercourse, deficiency of sexual gratification, or both. Physicians committed to the androcentric model of sexuality were inclined to conflate these two etiologies and to prescribe treatment accordingly.” I find it rather intriguing how low sexual gratification could lead a women to have hysteria. How women behave rather “Irrational”, while hysteria was only curable with a partner not just by yourself.

Apparently Hysteria has been a rather huge deal in the medical field for sometime. ” Hysteria appears in the medical corpus as early as 2000 B.C. In Egypt, but it was not until the time of Hippocrates in the fifth century B.CC that the western clinical definition of the disorder began to take shape. In the Hippocratic corpus, hysteria is a disease of the womb, treatable with exercise and massage. Plato’s reference to hysteria as a disease caused by the uterus,  “an animal inside an animal,” is well-known. By the time of Celsus and Soranus in the first century A.D., genital massage and exercise, usually passive, were standard prescriptions for hysteria. Soranus advocated manipulating the groin and pubic area.” A rather interesting insight in the fact of stimulating the vagina and clitoris would be advocated by the individuals mentioned above to cure hysteria. ” Aretaeus Cappodox, writing a century later on mania as a chronic disease, discusses the cause of ailment, asserting that “women… become affected with mania from want of purgation of the system, when the uterus has attained its full development.” It has to be understandable this was the perspective a long time ago, but has anything really changed?

Not to mentioned if you are more indulgent of sexual gratification of the senses you are more likely to catch hysteria more frequently. ” Galen ( ca. A.D. 129-200), the physician’s physician for centuries after his death, described hysteria as a uterine  disease caused by sexual deprivation, to which passionate women were particularly susceptible. This theme of female sexuality as pathology was to reappear in various forms in later centuries. He describes in detail a genital massage therapy, resulting in contractions and the release of fluid from the vagina, after which the patient was relieved of her symptoms. His account is literally the classic description of massage therapy for hysteria, which was to be repeated almost verbatim in later texts and to be regarded as therapeutic gospel in some medical circles until the end of the nineteenth century.”

It makes one wonder if women sexuality has been repressed for fear of what actually lie within thru all this centuries. Then off course masturbation was rather a great way to relieve hysteria, that women ‘needed’ someone else to help. ” Marriage was the best remedy, but if all else failed, masturbation to orgasm was indicated: “According to Avicenna the cure was efficacious only if the sensations of coitus that is, pleasure and pain, were felt. Medieval doctors generally omitted to refer to this aspect of the treatment when recommending recourse to manipulation; yet it was evident that the female sexual discharge accompanied orgasm.” One might infer from this passage that Avicenna or his colleagues might have occasionally advocated masturbation by the woman herself. This is not the case.  In the ‘Canon’ he warns of women’s resorting to “rubbing, among other women” as a possible consequence of unsatisfying intercourse; it is clearly not intended as advice on recommended practice for women. The privilege (or drudgery) of such “rubbing” was reserved for husbands, doctors, and midwives.”

If you are not aware until recently women have more freedom and honestly deserve it after much subjugation from society as a whole. Before marriage was apparently the one of the few cures for this disease ” Nor should you wonder at all these things which are natural to women, and are particularly to be expected of the condition of virgins; because of retention of the sexual fluid, the heart and surrounding areas are enveloped in a morbid and moist exudation: this is especially true of the more lascivious females, inclined to venery, passionate women who are most eager to experience physical pleasure; if she is of this type she cannot ever be relieved by any aid except that of her parents, who are advised to find her a husband. Having done so, the man’s strong and vigorous intercourse alleviated the frenzy. She married an energetic young man, who, having discharged his martial responsibilities with vigor, she took to this with enthusiasm; under the appropriate treatment she flourished, revived, bloomed with the rosy shade of well-bein, and was entirely restored to health.”

It isn’t the first time I incounter this form of thinking which I find it hard to understand at times but I am aware that it is individuals perspectives. There isn’t anything wrong with masturbation; unless you off course over do it and condition yourself to only receive that form of climax; which is fine if you desire that. The same with pornography you essentially condition oneself to orgasm with the help of ponography so when the time comes to have actual intercourse it will be not as exciting or rather difficult to participtate in intercourse itself. I still believe women sexuality has been rather suffocated or treated as a crime when it’s rather sensual, fluid, very admirable. If as a society we let women sexuality flourish it would be a rather more healthy society as a whole instead of having fear, human race we would have more secure women that feel home within their own bodies.

reference

Rachel P. Maines.(1999).The Technology Of Orgasm:University Press

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Sexuality Pedistal

Take a little moment within your precious life to join me in this trip. Wether you are a mistress,single, in a relationship, open-relationship, friend with benefits, “friends”, sugar daddy, sugar mama, cheating, maybe seeing your e.x, or thinking about them, having fantasies, married, widow. Etc.

Imagine feeling the smooth texture of their skin. Mesmerized by the intoxicating smell of them. Words don’t describe or come close to the cosmic union that intensifies with seconds that past. Lips engulfing both of us within a bubble of passion and heat as a marathon of sweat drips from the exhaustion of are bodies; movements that don’t know the limitations of the human body. Depth of this carnal feeling isn’t something that time erases, but harnesses the yearning to a greater degree. Roughness as your body explodes from the hunger which I desperately have inhibit. Releasing desire which has you addicted to me; it’s an intoxication which only you can cure with the medicine are earnestly seek. I will be the doctor as you are my patient, I’ll prescribe the right prescription. 

Regardless of who you are (Women,Male, in- between) enjoy your sexuality. With yourself or the luxury of enjoying someone else. 

                               

Desire Pill

Have you ever felt desire dwindling or felt you lack sexual drive? I was looking into how to make desire last in a long-term relationship. If the waning of lust or yearning could be brought back. I remember the pharmaceutical companies are creating pills in which would spike women desire back up, essentially the same as what Viagra does to men.

Apparently America is a big market for such pills ” medications, molecules aimed by pharmaceutical giants at the same despair, the feeling of desire’s vanishing, aimed at the same market, worth over four billion dollars a year in America alone”. As well it made me wonder why hasn’t a pill been made yet. It’s also interesting how birth control pills effect some women than others differently ” women whose antidepressants suffocate their desire. He would have a way to understand one of the conundrums of his field: why birth control pills snuffed out sexuality in some– but far from all–women”. It seems like women desire is rather more complex than males.

I wondered if a women desire seems to wain from more of a psychological perspective and why has no pill been approved by the FDA. The mind tends to control the body and sometimes vice versa, as well political has to do with the pills not being approved. ” Another reason was bound up with a David-and-Goliath battle that some therapist saw themselves fighting heroically against the drug industry–against its rush to find, win FDA approval for, and market what is loosely known as a female Viagra. Since the late nineties, when pharmaceutical companies has begun making billions by assisting erections with a chemical that affected the capillaries of the penis, the corporations had been seeking an equivalent for women. But this hadn’t been going smoothly, because women’s sexual problems usually aren’t genital; they’re entrenched in psycholigcal.” If this is true wouldn’t it be as easy as thinking differently? Or is it much deeper than just the thought process and something more biological?

The more political side of it would be society would change dramatically. The resonated with what Goldstein recounted from his involvement with Flibanserin. In Flibanserin’s trials, he hadn’t taken his usual outsider’s role, interviewing women, dispensing medication. He’d been hired as an advisor by the corporation that owned the molecule; he’d been in on strategy sessions. “When you’re going to the FDA with this kind of drug, there’s the sense that you want your effects to be good but not to good.” he said. Too good hadn’t turned out to be Flibanserin’s problem, but, he explained. “There was a lot of discussion about it by the experts in the room, the need to show that you’re not turning women into nymphomaniacs. There’s a bias, a bias against– a fear of creating the sexuality aggressive women. here’s this idea of societal breakdown.” This off course would be very negative to how society been structured for the last millenium or so. As far as we know off course.

As far I am aware the companies have not been able to find a drug that brings desire or lust back within a relationship. There are a few theories of why, I think there is other remedies but it is things I would have to test out first.

refrences

( Daniel,Bergner. What Do Women Want? United States : HarperCollins Publishers Inc. June 2013)

Come As You Are

I am usually curious about how women inhibit their sexuality or I usually try to understand why a women wouldn’t be comfortable in her own body. Everyone has a different answer; let’s look into a book I have found intriguing.

While being raised to some extent I figured women are more sexual than presumed. It made me wonder why then tell women that they are “slutty” or “whore” when they are just expressing themselves? “We’re raising women to be sexually dysfunctional, with all the ‘no’ messages we’re giving them about diseases and shame and fear. And then as soon as they’re eighteen they’re supposed to be sexual rock stars, multiorgasmic and totally uninhibited. It doesn’t make any sense. None of the things we do in our society prepares women for that.” It would make more sense if women are raised to enjoy themselves so they could have more healthy relationships with themselves and with others. You could put a male in the same situation and he would be praised for exploring and enjoying himself.

I found this passage rather interesting “I am done living in a world where women are lied to about their bodies; where women are objects of sexual desire but not subjects of sexual pleasure; where sex is used as a weapon against women; and where women believe their bodies are broken, simply because those bodies are not male. And I am done living in a world where women are trained from birth to treat their bodies as the enemy.” As more information comes out daily it would make sense to bring one another up not down. Yes not everyone is the same, but nonetheless it doesn’t make sense to put someone down. If sex is such a big thing why are people so insecure about talking about it or expressing it? It has to do with social norms and a lot to do how we are brought up from a young age.

At the end the message is the same, we are all the same just different in are own unique way. “We know by now that there’s no such thing as normal—or rather, that we’re all normal. We’re all made of the same parts as everyone else, organized in a unique way. No two alike.”  So I agree to come as you are because in your own each way each one of you are special; if that touched you then smile to someone because you never know what a smile could do.

reference

(Emily Nagoski, Come As You Are, Scribe Publications, 2015)

Female Libido Repressed?

There has always been this argument whether a man has more desire and drive for intercourse than women. I am starting to think the only reason why they say man have more sexual desire is because women are put down from showing sexual desire or to have intercourse. Women have as much sexual drive as any man or even more, ever wondered why women could have multiple orgasms?

I notice many individuals try to hide their sexuality, many individuals care about what other people think of them. I was once read that when you stop caring what other people think you are able to finally live. ” Thought many strive to hide their human libidinousness from themselves and each other, being a force of nature, it breaks through. Lots of uptight, proper Americans were scandalized by the way Elvis moved his hips when he sang “rock and roll.” But how many realized what the phrase rock and roll meant? Cultural historian Michael Ventura, investigating the roots of African-American music, found the rock ‘n’ roll was a term that originated in the juke joints of the south. Long in use by the time Elvis appeared, Ventura explains the phrase “hadn’t meant the name of the music, it meant ‘to fuck.’ ‘Rock,’ by itself, has pretty much meant that, in those circles, since the twenties at least.” By the mid-1950’s, when the phrase was becoming widely used in mainstream culture, Ventura says the disc jockeys “either didn’t know what they were saying or were to shy to admit what they knew.” The thing’s we enjoy its the things we try to suppress.

“Before the war on drugs, the war on terror, or the war on cancer, there was the war on female sexual desire. It’s a war that has been raging far longer than any other, and it’s victims number well into the billions by now. Like the others, it’s a war that can never be won, as the declared enemy is a force of nature. We may as well declare war on the cycles of the moon.” It doesn’t make sense why we try repress a women libido; when if it was released everyone would enjoy one another more. ” Sex for pleasure with various partners is therefore more “human” than animal. Strictly reproductive, once-in-a-blue-moon sex is more “animal” than human. In other words, n excessively horny monkey is acting “human,” while a man or women uninterested in sex more than once or twice a year would be, strictly speaking, “acting like an animal.”

How has societies change with new information and different belief systems? ” Remember the Tenth Commandment: “Thou shalt not covert thy neighbors house, thou shalt not covert thy neighbors wife, nor his manservant, nor his maidservant, nor his ox, nor his as, nor any thing that [is] thy neighbor’s.” Clearly, the biggest loser (aside from slaves perhaps) in the agriculture revolution was the human female, who went from occupying a central respected role in foraging societies to becoming another possession for a man to earn and defend, along with his house, slaves, and livestock.”

As people are becoming more liberal and exploring new ideas; it makes me wonder how society will be in fifty years. Liberate and help as many people as possible to explore the unexplored and give them confidence.

Christopher,Ryan. (2010) Sex At Dawn. US. HarperCollins

 

 

Human Nature?

I have always been intriguing about why individuals stray or cheat and it makes me wonder if it’s biological? If something was so natural to us to be monogamous then why go long length to seek something else out? It makes me just ponder if it is out of fear based or a socially constructed idea of having marriage.

“And yet, despite repeated assurances that women aren’t particularly sexual creatures, in cultures around the world men have gone to extraordinary lengths to control female libido: female genital mutilation, head-to-toe chador, medieval witch burnings, chastity belts, suffocating corsets, muttered insults about “insatiable” whores, pathologizing, paternalistic medical diagnoses of nymphomania of hysteria, the debilitating scorn heaped on any female who chooses to be generous with her sexuality..all parts of a worldwide campaign to keep the supposedly low-key female libido under control. Why the electrified high-security razor wire fence to contain a kitty-cat?” It always makes me wonder why hide the fact that women are highly sexual beings?

How did we get to the ideas we have today about mating, dating, sexuality? “Marriage,” mating,” and “love” are socially constructed phenomena that have little or no transferable meaning outside any given culture. The examples we’ve noted of rampant ritualized group sex, mate-swapping unrestrained casual affairs, and socially sanctioned sequential sex were all reported in cultures that anthropologists insist are monogamous simply because they’ve determined that something they call “marriage” takes place there. No wonder so many insist that marriage, monogamy, and the nuclear family are human universals. With such all-encompassing interpretations of the concepts, even the prairie vole, who “sleeps with anyone” would qualify.” It’s interesting how we hide the other things that happen behind closed doors.

Is being with one individual really natural? Or is it having open relationships more common? ” No group-living nonhuman primate is monogamous, and adultery has been documented in every human culture studied including those in which fornicator are routinely stoned to death. In light of all this bloody retribution, it’s hard to see how monogamy comes “naturally” to our species. Why would so many risk their reputations, families, career- even presidential legacies for something that runs against human nature? Were monogamy an ancient, evolved train characteristics of our species, as the standard narrative insists, these ubiquitous transgressions would be infrequent and such horrible enforcement unnecessary. No creature needs to be threatened with death to act in accord with its own nature”.

It makes me wonder if is fear or is a socially constructed ideas that we have about dating and how we manage are interpersonal relationships.

references

Christopher,Ryan. (2010) Sex At Dawn. US. HarperCollins

Sex, Sex, Sex

Sex Sex Sex
Yes this is a Sex and Relationship blog, I had a dream and I felt inspired to share this. 
Sometimes we forget the simple things in life are the most rewarding. At times we forget are partner touch or if your not with that person we forget those valuable moments of intimacy. The moments of exctasy as two bodies unite as one. As emotions transferred from one another and fluids are exchanged and being vulnerable with one another. Sex is this and much more.
Feeling the aroma of your partner, looking into another person eyes seeing the reflection of yourself within them knowing you are one. There smile making your day brighter as it reminds you how a smile could make a difference. Feeling there hair, hearing there voice, missing them. Remembering lost memories that once where, focusing on the good days when the sun was shinning. Seeing there eyes shine as they express there happiness with you; showing you new things, food, aromas, passions, places, sexuality, spirituality. 
Letting desire fill your veins as you touch your partner and caress there body, penetrating gently as you gain speed and momentum hearing groans and moans as it fills your mind and this primal feeling becomes awaken. Letting them feel your intensity as you look at them observing the perfection within this moment you are sharing. Enjoying one another as such a deep intimate level, feeling the depth of your soul yearning to be fulfilled becoming one with another as every movement is made. 
Grabbing them and holding them in place against the wall, biting there neck as the pain is felt but the pleasure taking its place. Blindfolding them, tying there hands, feet, letting them trust you. Caressing there body, taking your time, there no rush when enjoying someone. Being rough, spanking, hair pulling, deep penetration, letting the primal instincts take over and letting your neighbors know

your animal. Loving is shown in many different ways, Tender? Rough? Spiritual? 

Let yourself go fully, so when you partner remembers. Let them know the good memories, even supreme intelligence was taking notes from what you did to them. 
Have fun and enjoy yourself. No regrets. 

Sexual Fluidity

I believe that we have all had a friend that at some point was Heterosexual, Homosexual, or Bisexual and went in a whole different direction after some time. It made me wonder how someone sexuality could change so dramatically, is it biological or just the environment. So far there isn’t a whole single answer, but I am starting to think there isn’t just one answer. As humans we are complex beings and one single answer might not encompass are sexuality even thought we like to think there is just one answer.

Is sexuality just due to in environment and opportunity or biological? Well According to Lisa M. Diamond ” Similarly, in the late 1970s the sociologist Philp Blumestein and Pepper Schwartz conducted a groundbreaking study of more than 150 men and women with bisexual patterns of sexual behavior. They found that thought some of their respondents had experienced same-sex desires for many years, others appeared to have undergone major changes in their sexual attractions. They concluded that early childhood influences on sexuality ( whatever they may be) were not immutable, and that most individuals were unaware of their own capacity for change in sexuality over time.” I found this intriguing specially due to the fact that the sexual revolution only started ten years prior. Also something that stood out to me is how can someone change their sexual orientation or not be aware that it could change with time. Could it be that the curiosity was already there? Or is it just a hormonal change with time that activates?

Within the book Sexual Fluidity by Lisa M. Diamond describes what Fludity means. According to Lisa M. Diamond Fludity is defined ” Sexual fluidity, quite means situation-dependant flexibility in women’s sexual responsiveness. This flexibility makes it possible for some women to experience desires for either men or women under certain circumstances, regardless of their overall sexual orientation.” Essentially women Sexuality could change at times depending on the environment or what is happening in their life. I also think that even thought this book is on women sexuality, it could happen to males as well. Even thought it seems like males tend to stick to certain orientations throughout their life’s. This does this mean all women could be bisexual? Lisa M. Diamond says ” No. Fludity can be thought of as an additional component of a women’s sexuality that operates in concert with sexual orientation to influence how her attractions, fantasies, behaviors, and affections are experienced and expressed over the life course. Fluidity implies not what women’s desires are endlessly variable but that some women are capable of a wider variety of erotic feelings and experiences than would be predicted on the basis of their self described sexual orientation alone.”

Lisa M. Diamond does go into brain structures and hormonal changes. I was aware that alteration to the brain could make an individual act differently than before, ” Returning to the neuroendocrine theory, extensive animal research has shown that androgens and estrogens secreted by the developing fetal genitals play a fundamental role in sexual differentiation in mammalian brains. Furthermore, alterations in fetal hormone exposure have been associated with alterations in animals adults sexual behaviors. Specifically, male-typed sexual behavior in female animals has been associated with abnormally high levels of prenatal androgen exposure, whereas female-typed sexual behavior in male animals has been associated with abnormally low levels of androgen exposure.” Essentially hormonal changes just the slightest could affect animals sexual behaviors. This made me contemplate with all of are processed food how does it affect us, not to mention he substances we put within ourself. ” This findings has led researches to speculate that similar processes might operate for humans, such that same-sex sexual orientation might reflect alterations in brain “masculinization” or “feminization” owing to altered prenatal hormones environments.” The neuroendocrine theory is arguing that are sexuality is already predestined, due to hormones. The problem with this is that as humans we are more complex than animals; even thought we are still animals.

The book Sexual fluidity is very intriguing and I did skip much information. The author doesn’t agree with ether environment or are genes define are sexuality. Rather that it takes many factors and much-needed research is still needed. I Think that it could be both also; even thought genetics has a big say in are makeup; we could still change and as humans we do. I do understand that women and males at times aren’t certain why they are attracted to individuals that probably before they wouldn’t have found them attractive. It could be confusing for them, just know that you decide what you do with your life and don’t let others tell you what is right or wrong.

references

Diamond M. Lisa,(2009) Sexual Fluidity, USA, Harvard University Press

Understanding Sexuality

This is a personal post so no references on this one, lately I believe that my sexuality was rather pushed. I have noticed every time I have a new partner I have to in a sense adapt and understand an individual that is different from my other partners. This means understanding them at a mentally, emotionally, and physically and this takes time and a lot of listening. I will try to break down sexuality in four paragraphs from personal experience and knowledge.

Mentally I understand everyone is different and have their own perspective on how they see their own world. This also means that everyone will see sexuality different and have different ideas on how they get arouse and have orgasms. This is where having open communication is really essential; you have to understand that one position might work for someone but for another person it won’t. When being monogamous you learn on how to help your partner reach bliss; on the other hand when having multiple partners you start to understand that variety in knowledge is necessary. In monogamy it is also essential in having variety, but the main point is that sexuality is so diverse that is so fundamental to having an open mind and willing to grow in any type of relationship.

Emotionally and past trauma could have an effect and guide a person life and sexuality. The subconscious mind doesn’t forget anything; especially emotionally charged memories. If a person had a bad experience sexually or in any other way it will be memorized in the amygdala and hippocampus. When a person is in the same situation a person will feel the same negative feelings associated with the previous expeirence. I have seen and been with women who for one reason or another have had a bad experience and can’t get passed the negative feelings and they cant enjoy their sexuality to the fullest. At moments such as this listening and understanding could help a person move forward with trust and love.

In general people physique are vastly different but at the same time the same. Before having intercourse seeing a person size and weight and understanding a person pain tolerance should be considered. Some individuals love deeper penetration while other individuals prefer vanilla intercourse much more. There are off course individuals that enjoy being disciplined to the point of having bruises or not being able to continue. This off course should come as consensual and open communication is recommended. depending on the individual certain physical parts will be more arousing than others; and this tends to vary from person to person.

Sexuality is so diverse and complex that there really isn’t a one way fits all, I believe this is where sex ed doesn’t really do a good job at. Everyone is different and just because one thing worked on someone; doesn’t mean it will work on another individual. I believe sexuality is diverse and openly talking about it with a partner is crucial to both partners growth. This also helps with having more pleasure and having a deeper respect and understanding of one another. If you tend to enjoy multiple partners I recommend having an open mind, good listening skills, and understanding that everyone sexuality is vastly different.

Women Dominant and Males Submissive?

As times go by it seems that many individuals have problems with the opposite sex and equal rights movements happening more often now. Women in general don’t make as much as her counterpart even if they hold the same position in a corporation. It has made me wonder if this is social conditioning or are we actually hard-wired to be this way? There are species in which women are the dominant one within the species and males are there just to court and reproduce. Is it possible that everything we do is just to attract more partners? I don’t have every evidence possible, but it is something I have contemplated whether it is social conditioning or nature.

We will start with other ape and primate species in where one is dominated by female and the other by male. “There, In Asian mountains or lowlands forests, adult males lurked at the edges of female-run domains. The females invited them in to serve sexually. The males remained–desirable, dispensable –until the female lost interest in them. Then they were dismissed, replaced. In his compound, Wallen removed the breeders and introduced new males about every three years, the time it took for them to become irrelevant, for their claims to wane, for the frequency pf their copulation almost always female-initiated– to fade. In the wild they seemed to stay attractive only slightly longer.” ” Rhesus females are very xenophobia when it comes to other females,” Wallen said. “Introduce a new female into the compound and she’ll be hounded until she dies. But when it comes to males, females have a bias toward novelty.” Essentially in Rhesus society the women dominate the species and when courting happens and when it does not. The males are actually the passive ones and not the aggressors, but rather the females are.

The Bonobo

Bonobos are female dominant, with females forming tight bonds against males through same-sex socio-sexual contact that is thought to limit aggression. In the wild, they have not been seen to cooperatively hunt, use tools, or exhibit lethal aggression.

The Chimpanzee

Chimpanzees are male dominant, with intense aggression between different groups that can be lethal. Chimpanzees use tools, cooperatively hunt monkeys, and will even eat the infants of other chimpanzee groups.

Bonobos and Chimpanzees share close to 99% of their genome in common with humans, meaning that their genomes are more similar to that of humans than they are to that of gorillas. However, it may be that Bonobos, whose psychology is virtually unstudied relative to that of chimpanzees, are more similar to humans than are chimpanzees in how they solve various social problems (e.g. Hare, Melis, Woods, Hastings, & Wrangham, 2007). Such similarities may even be partly the result of shared and heritable neurophysiology that potentially regulates the social emotions of humans and Bonobos in similar ways (Hammock & Young, 2005). This is species that are really related to us as humans, so it makes me wonder if it is actually ingrained instinct and not just conditioning within the species. Within this species there are hierachies and active communication within the species; but it makes me wonder if this is how it was since each species started.

I read a book that are mind and what we do in our life could just be a way to attract partners. The peacock features it’s big and wonderful tail, but doesn’t neccesarily have any survival pruposes. The argument was that are big proportinal brain doesn’t neccesarily help for survival; rather it takes much energy for any purpose for survival. I wrote about this in another article just click here.

As times has passed and many of human socieities have perished; from what I understand many if not all socieities have been patriarchy dominated. So it makes me wonder if we are like the Chimpanzees in that sense; or is it that thru conditioning for hundreds of years it has been embeded in are subconscious mind and just became a social norm. I understand there are women right movements such as “The first gathering devoted to women’s rights in the United States was held July 19–20, 1848, in Seneca Falls, New York. The principal organizers of the Seneca Falls Convention were Elizabeth Cady Stanton, a mother of four from upstate New York, and the Quaker abolitionist Lucretia Mott.1 About 100 people attended the convention; two-thirds were women. Stanton drafted a “Declaration of Sentiments, Grievances, and Resolutions,” that echoed the preamble of the Declaration of Independence: “We hold these truths to be self-evident: that all men and women are created equal.” Among the 13 resolutions set forth in Stanton’s “Declaration” was the goal of achieving the “sacred right of franchise.”

I am putting this in the context of sexuality and courting; from experience I have noticed that when a women wants to attract a male she becomes submissive and the male becomes the dominant one. This doesn’t neccesarily mean women are passive and just sexual objects; ir’s just observations and seeing that social norms also makes this behaviors appropiate. It could be the opposite way if we change are conditioning; it would be different. One thing is for certain I belief women and males balance one another out and work better together; in cultures such as buddihism they call this male and female enegies. Or you could also see it as Ying and Yang; if you put both sides together it becomes whole so I belief that without one another things wouldn’t be the same.

Refences

Chimps and Bonobos 

Women Rights 

What Do Women Want?

The Mating mind ArticleThe Mating mind Article