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Breaking Point Release – Saturday Free

Ebook – Author Forewords

I apologize for my absence and the delay on the free Erotica ebook. I wasn’t certain if I wanted individuals to know about my own sexual life which delayed me publishing the ebook world wide. Nonetheless individuals kept asking when was the due date. This saturday I’ll make certain it is free which you could get it here.

I appreciate the help from the graphic designer which I believe did a great job. The two editors which corrected my bad english grammar. The people who kept asking me and has shown interest on what actually happens behind the scenes.

About The Book

If you follow my blog or know me in  person you would understand. This isn’t in any way boasting about my sexual life. I love intercourse but I respect the women who spend precious moments and reveal their intimate selves which few get to see.  believe when you get to see the deeper aspects of individuals. It is something  precious that I consider an honor to see,feel, and experience. The book is written in consensus about who I wrote about.

The first story is written about a women who change my perspective that has enduring effects till this day. Moments, memories, and intimate conversations that I have grown fond of remembering. Truthfully the book was inspired by her when we first started to speak. She read my simple writings and corrected them but her motivational words is what started the book before I made her aware it was about her. Energetic, open-minded, ambitious, very social, kind, caring, understanding, emotional at times, conservative, and very open-hearted. I believe what I miss the most is communicating with her.  Coming from how I use to live my life; honestly she will hold a special spot in my mind that I will cherish.

Second story is about two women who I met because of a friend from middle school. My friend always encourage me to date the younger friend which was his sister friend. Both actually encourage this all thru middle school till I was an adult. When I became an adult I stop seeing my old friend and didn’t hear from him till the younger girl was becoming 18. Having a good relationship with all three it was a happy reunion.  Both women are energetic and very alluring in their own right. I always cared for them and tried to look out for them when possible. The younger girl had always had a crush on me which became relevant during the night at the party. Finding out the older friend found me enticing it turn into a night which I won’t forget.

Last words. I believe this will be the only book I will write. Sexuality is great and I dearly hope you are enjoying yourself.


Los Infieles (The Affair)-2

Seconds hours so many days, you know what you want but how much can you wait? Every moment lasts forever..what if you lost your way. What if your chances are already gone? I started believing I could be wrong, but you gave me one good reason… to fight and not walk away.

If every step you take is climbing a mountain, tired of fighting, but you know it within yourself to not give up. We all have those moment where you almost thought you quit. Dig deeper, push and break every rule because what you desire is worth every mountain.

Give it all up I will give you a hand when you fall. There aren’t no boundaries; I see your insecurities, the depth of your yearning soul, basking in emotional turmoil. The hand is there; look upon the far skies to the sun radiating waiting for you.

As I first laid eyes on you I seen the potential; hold on tightly for the ride. Hypnotized by who you are a passion ruptured between us. Stroke time very well because it could be your last. Smile at every venture as the adventure last as long as you jump. No point not to follow the earnest heart seeking more.

It is amazing as the lures to take it all off. Are you ready to endure the task at hand? You sought what you deeply yearn for, why repeat and sleep with the enemy. If it was a sinful act it felt amazing without any remorse. 

They wouldn’t understand if we explained. Take it off as we aspire to wake up in the morning with one another. Be careful not to let the neighbors know, are partners, let are secret stay in the hotel. Take your time the sensual feeling you feel is the taboo of the act we are doing, aren’t we bad. 

Let this temptation fill your heart as we are devilish. Love flow as water moves smoothly; whisper your ideas as we ravish are souls. Let your eyes radiate as a smile unfolds. Tell him the lies you tell him which you undress slowly maneveruing yourself slowly into my embrace; if we commit is because we venture towards bliss.

We shall be forgiven if this sinful, how can it feel so great? Whisper my name, cry out of joy, don’t say anything. Remember euphoria moment which we both were sentence to hell? Fuck it. Let’s love one another in secret; blossom in your delight as we became the narcotic which we got addicted too. 

I’ll take the time too caress the delicacy of your skin. Be my aphrodisiac as I ravish the intensity of this depth yearning; take your time undressing as I admire the exquisiteness you are. The heart calls upon forth to feel the frenzy of your love. I desire to wake up with such excstatic sensation you felt from earnest determination. Naughty and nasty, heavy breathing, we are doing this; we are reminded. Too express this yearning with words doesn’t come close to the raw unison are bodies feel. 
– Dedicated too the women I wrote about in Sexual Affair, we got together and collaborated with her story and my erotica writing. 


No Boundaries 
Los Infieles

Art Of Seduction – 2

Seduction is part of any intimate relationship which is a great thing. Regardless of the form of relationship seduction should be an ongoing process. The reason which I choose to write about this topic is due to the fact that I notice many good intentional individuals are rather lonely. Which has me contemplating that yes intercourse is interesting but at times it is necessary to attract a person first. Learning from Sociologist, Hypnotherapist, Sex Therapist, Sexologist, Sex Educators, Behavioral Psychologist, Officers, Mentors, Dating coaches and from experiences this ideas have helped me improve my dating and sexuality which honestly it could improve your own life. I have a passion for this which the best form of return to me is hearing I have helped out an individual. I will be going over relationships and intercourse which will make the blog post lengthy, I will not be referencing because I have lost many books and some information was obtained thru interpersonal relationships; if not you could go thru my beginning blog post which should have the information which I am stating now. Last thought this information is basic because if I go into depth it would take many blog post and many individuals will charge you online for this, take this as an incentive to explore more in psychology, dating, and intercourse.

Everything starts with yourself which the reasons the results you are getting is because the knowledge you posses or do not implement and habits. So first take an analysis of yourself of insecurities, past relationships, beliefs about dating, intercourse, other people. Do you have a passion or a purpose in life, how well is your self-image? How do you perceive yourself? One way or another this all has an impact on relationships because you are part of it. In the long run start by healing insecurities, reading, Self-hypnosis, forming new habits to improve self-esteem. Overall this would make you a more alluring individual.


When it comes to dating your own emotions will tell you how a date is going or how you perceive is going. Think about emotions as an indicator on a car they are their to tell you if there is a problem or not. As you have probably read on my blog posts emotions are contagious which means that the emotions you feel are felt by another person. The way a human feels empathy is “Mirror ns” within the brain which are firing consistently to percieve threats and understand the environment which you are in. In the book “Emotional Intelligence” scientists notice that the brain of the ape turned on when communicating with a human being. Essentially apes have similar brain structures and they found out that humans when speaking the brains mimics one another.

If you understand the above sentence then you understand why it’s fundamnetally crucial to be in a positive mood around a potential mate. This in essence is why being observant of one’s own emotional state is necessary when it comes to anything in general within life as well as in dating. In intercourse having an intense emotional state as passion is recommended with a calm state of mind. This emotional state of mind will make another person feel desired, giving them a strong dosage of dopamine which will make you an addicting individual.

                         Body Language 101

Body language is a second form of communication which the sub-conscious mind is consistently monitoring of individuals around you. This form of communication is good to understand while it could get complex I always keep it simple. Body language became popular when President Kennedy first did a national televised presentation and showed how a facial expression, tone of voice, body posture could make a huge difference on how individuals perceived you.

  1. When walking always keep an erect posture with hands to the side, individuals who feel confident walk in this form. Also if you desire to feel confident get in this position and you would feel more positive, and alive.
  2. When speaking to any individual do not cross your arms; this is perceived as being defensive. Individuals who crossed their arms feel defencive or are comforting themselves or feel in some form threatened.
  3. Smiling as a universal facial expression which insinuates that you mean no harm. Essentially you are not here to hurt anyone while having an open palm also shows that you have nothing to hide.
  4. Do not insert hands into pockets because this usually stands for people are hiding something.
  5. When speaking to someone always have body facing them. This states that the other person has your undivided attention which will make the other person feel more calm and understood.
  6. Eye contact Always keep eye contact with another person. It is mentioned that the eyes are gateways to the soul which I onestly agree with. When you dedicate in off time looking into people eyes you come to understand and see different forms of emotions being expressed. Confident individuals could hold eye contact which in the beginning could be difficult if you are not accustomed to it. Rule of thumb always look at the right eye…it tends to be the dominant eye in the general public. If you find this difficult you could look between a person eyebrow and it will be like looking into another person eyes.

There also a skill which is called mimicking which essentially you mimic another person body language. Individuals love other individuals who are perceived as themselves; people have a narrcistic love to themselves.

Example – When seeing an ex-girlfriend which I believe is a remarkable women was sitting across from me. I notice her hands and body posture where following mine which I took as a good sign. They showed interest while having her undivided attention, I didn’t mention that we where mimicking one another body language, but she pointed it out later which to me I found fascinating because many individuals don’t know this.  When people mimics one another body language is because of interest, very similar, subconscious agree with mating with an individual and courting is going good. Remember when you are in tune with another person you will automatically mimick another person body language; such as in this case. You could do this consciously but do it in calm demeanor if not it could be strange.

In essence this is the basic in body language; if you desire to go in more depth you could find a whole source of information on this topic. Remember keep it simple; the body will always display how you feel inside.

                           Touching & Listening

Listening is a form of art which many individuals have lost touch with.  Understanding another individual requires patience while being in tuned how a person speaks as well as the content. When conversing a conversation is a two-way form of transferring information between individuals. I highly suggest to listen more than to speak, when a person speaks they let out a lot of information about themselves or things which they are interested in. This allows to understand a person deeply. I only have three rules I follow which have just become habits that allow me to understand individuals better.

  1. When listening never interrupt to insert your own opinion. It’s not just disrespectful it doesn’t allow the other person to finish their statement. Also I believe is lack of social intelligence which would lead to misinformation which if you would have patience would have gotten.
  2. While listening once in a while nod your head up and down which shows that you are actually paying attention. This confirms to the other person your interest as well as confirming what they are saying. People will feel understood and talk more openly with you.
  3. Actually be interested in the other person. I believe is an honor to be able to understand someone at a deeper level which not many individuals will allow with just anyone. I think it’s respectful also a great gift you could allow someone to express themselves with you.

Remember do this because you are actually interested in another human being. Show them that they are worthy and worthwhile to be heard. Every individual has a story which if you listen too could show you how special a person is.

Touching is necessary when it comes to seduction which requires confidence. Confidence is formed by you understanding you are good at something; maybe you are good at sports, racing, cooking etc. This will allow you to feel more confident because you are great at a specific thing. In the animal kingdom many animals smell, touch, court one another before mating. When meeting someone to see how comfortable someone is with you it is a good idea to touch someone who will also indicate a sexual interest.

  1. Touching the thighs, outside elbow, forearm are places which are not considered very private. Also it isn’t seen as invasive or overtly aggressive on your own part. When speaking if you are laughing just gently touch the arm to emphasis the statement which will calm the other individual.  This also will get the other individual to be okay with you touching them which is a great thing.
  2. Smell – There is a reason which perfumes are rather popular; not to mentioned pheromones. We are consistently letting out phermones which are indicating are healthiness for other mates. We aren’t aware of this consciously but are subconscious is. A good way to smell an individual if you aren’t ye intimate is to insinuate a game.


  • Ask the person if they are a good bitter. ( Person answer). Tell them let’s see who is a better bitter in playful manner.
  • When biting bite the underside of the forearm around the vein location which the bite should be a little rough but with a sensitive aspect to it. Once you took initiative let the other individual go next.
  • After tell them I couldn’t feel the bite(person answer), Now bite the neck with the same aggressive, sensitive aspect to it. Once you have bitten gently smell the neck as you slowly move away.

The point is to send this signal to the brain which will interpret as mating behavior. The person might find it as an aphrodisiac, maybe strange or not since it all. Remember do this in a pleasing manner as you court the lovely person you seek to be with.


I once read words are a women weakness which women want to be seduced and dominated by them. I cannon over emphasis how important words aren’t necessarily important but how you say them. You could possibly logically convince someone to have an attraction towards you but it probably won’t happen. That’s why when convincing someone it doesn’t work because they do not FEEL IT. The important aspect of this is feeling attracted towards you. Yes it is necessary to start reading which will expand the vocabulary you have. I recommend reading erotica which will give you words that instate sexuality and words that are emotionally loaded. I’ll give examples of things I have told women, but the important part is being HONEST and actually FEELING this towards the special person.

Remember when saying this type of phrases make eye contact without breaking away, imagine sweeping the person away. Also speak slowly without rushing any word which causes it to be dramatic.

  1. Do you believe in destiny?(Person Answer) I believe now destiny brought you into my life at the perfect time. Within myself I felt this strong uncontrolled feeling which told me that If I didn’t come for you I would regret it for the rest of my life. I had to follow my heart which I earnestly did and has led me to be laying here with your gorgeous self.
  2. I couldn’t help but notice you…I had to come and tell you.. How stunning you are.
  3. When I first laid eyes upon you I have been captivated by you. The strong effect which I undoubtably detest you have over me is overwhelming. Nobody in a long time makes me feel the way you make me feel; that tells me within myself that there is something very special about you.

When spoken with confidence, slowly, eye contact, strong emotion with minimal distance from another person this is powerful. Yes it requires confidence which you can’t really fake. 1 and 3 where directed to a specific women which had a strong effect on me since I met her, which I expressed the strong urge of emotions which I felt towards her. The 2 is more of sentence when you are meeting someone new who has led you mesmerized. Words are powerful when backed up with a strong emotions which there a good reason to be honest. Also if you aren’t attracted to the person then it won’t come off as genuine.

I noticed how long this blog post is so I will speak about intercourse in another blog post. When attracting another individual do it because they have a strong effect on you which you couldn’t help but express yourself towards them. Everything starts with yourself which is where it all begins. Attraction is a positive thing which bring multiple individuals together or a single person. Adore the person, admire, be relentless in love-making. The person is special and it’s a great gift to another person to be desired by a person which they want to be desired by.

The Affair 

Meeting a rather aluring women who name would be Amanda to conceal her identity told me a rather interesting story. Amanda is 37 years old now in her second marriage. She married at the age of 26 with her boyfriend who she been with six years, married for eight and divorced at 35. With her permission she wanted me to write about this in a poetic sense which might be difficult but with her help she aided me to possibly help other women who might be in the same situation. 

During lonely nights my heart waits patiently to see if you stir an eye towards me. The abyss seeing your self sink into alcohol, smoking, no sense of direction has led me endlessly questioning the nature about us. As the sun rises so shall the moon rise, as the birds chirp, so shall my endless nights of despair cringe me to be my utter worst nemesis. The thought of you seeking pleasure of my body has me feeling numb. 

I have betrayed the foundation I have built to build heaven instead of purgatory. His intensity driving my soul to flourish as he deliberaltely punishes my body as I ache for his wrath of desire I earnestly seek. Boundaries once I never would cross have been ripped apart Under his careful gaze. His eyes pierce to my very soul as he guides me to bliss which I have not felt for years. The wrath of his passion I soak up desperately has become a narcotic which I grew addicted to.

I fought to not fall, he picked me up as I left solidto to embrace an ache which couldn’t be fulfilled with you. As his words pierce my heart, the persistence in his eyes determined to fufill his heart felt desires; I know I am his Aphrodite which he admires. The thrill to be happy once again is an aphrodisiac which he utterly is committed to be. 

Lonely nights have been replaced with his presence. His careful intense gaze drives me to madness without a single word. I loved you once; the flame extinguished. On the other side my inner goddess was awaken; as I let out my bliss every single night into the air. The audacity, confidence, has me mersmrised as I am pushed to scream of extradionary euphoria. 
Amanda is speaking about her ex-husband and her present husband. The difference in how she felt internally during her first marriage and her present one. She was involved in affair before divorcing her husband at the time; rather felt guilty she has learned to see it as a blessing is disguise. Not necessarily saying to be unfaithful, but at times certain individuals enter are lives for particular reasons. 

Masturbation Bad For Women?

In recent history “hysteria” was used to reference a women who was irrational to the point that only orgasm would alleviate her from the disease which comes natural to a women sexuality? “The term “Hysteria” comes from a Greek word meaning simply ‘that which proceeds from the uterus’.” Yes I found this rather fascinating how an orgasm could alleviate a women from a disease.

In essence till the 1900’s this was the perspective for 2,500 years on hysteria (Women Sexuality). ” Hysteria was a set of symptoms that varied greatly between individuals (and their physicians), including but not limited to fainting (syncope), edema or hyperaemia ( congestion caused by fluid retention, either localized or general), nervousness, insomnia, sensations of heaviness in the abdomen, muscle spasms, shortness of breath, loss of appetite for food or for sex with the approved male partner, and sometimes a tendency to cause trouble for others, particularly members of the patient’s immediate family. The disorder was thought to be a consequence of lack of sufficient sexual intercourse, deficiency of sexual gratification, or both. Physicians committed to the androcentric model of sexuality were inclined to conflate these two etiologies and to prescribe treatment accordingly.” I find it rather intriguing how low sexual gratification could lead a women to have hysteria. How women behave rather “Irrational”, while hysteria was only curable with a partner not just by yourself.

Apparently Hysteria has been a rather huge deal in the medical field for sometime. ” Hysteria appears in the medical corpus as early as 2000 B.C. In Egypt, but it was not until the time of Hippocrates in the fifth century B.CC that the western clinical definition of the disorder began to take shape. In the Hippocratic corpus, hysteria is a disease of the womb, treatable with exercise and massage. Plato’s reference to hysteria as a disease caused by the uterus,  “an animal inside an animal,” is well-known. By the time of Celsus and Soranus in the first century A.D., genital massage and exercise, usually passive, were standard prescriptions for hysteria. Soranus advocated manipulating the groin and pubic area.” A rather interesting insight in the fact of stimulating the vagina and clitoris would be advocated by the individuals mentioned above to cure hysteria. ” Aretaeus Cappodox, writing a century later on mania as a chronic disease, discusses the cause of ailment, asserting that “women… become affected with mania from want of purgation of the system, when the uterus has attained its full development.” It has to be understandable this was the perspective a long time ago, but has anything really changed?

Not to mentioned if you are more indulgent of sexual gratification of the senses you are more likely to catch hysteria more frequently. ” Galen ( ca. A.D. 129-200), the physician’s physician for centuries after his death, described hysteria as a uterine  disease caused by sexual deprivation, to which passionate women were particularly susceptible. This theme of female sexuality as pathology was to reappear in various forms in later centuries. He describes in detail a genital massage therapy, resulting in contractions and the release of fluid from the vagina, after which the patient was relieved of her symptoms. His account is literally the classic description of massage therapy for hysteria, which was to be repeated almost verbatim in later texts and to be regarded as therapeutic gospel in some medical circles until the end of the nineteenth century.”

It makes one wonder if women sexuality has been repressed for fear of what actually lie within thru all this centuries. Then off course masturbation was rather a great way to relieve hysteria, that women ‘needed’ someone else to help. ” Marriage was the best remedy, but if all else failed, masturbation to orgasm was indicated: “According to Avicenna the cure was efficacious only if the sensations of coitus that is, pleasure and pain, were felt. Medieval doctors generally omitted to refer to this aspect of the treatment when recommending recourse to manipulation; yet it was evident that the female sexual discharge accompanied orgasm.” One might infer from this passage that Avicenna or his colleagues might have occasionally advocated masturbation by the woman herself. This is not the case.  In the ‘Canon’ he warns of women’s resorting to “rubbing, among other women” as a possible consequence of unsatisfying intercourse; it is clearly not intended as advice on recommended practice for women. The privilege (or drudgery) of such “rubbing” was reserved for husbands, doctors, and midwives.”

If you are not aware until recently women have more freedom and honestly deserve it after much subjugation from society as a whole. Before marriage was apparently the one of the few cures for this disease ” Nor should you wonder at all these things which are natural to women, and are particularly to be expected of the condition of virgins; because of retention of the sexual fluid, the heart and surrounding areas are enveloped in a morbid and moist exudation: this is especially true of the more lascivious females, inclined to venery, passionate women who are most eager to experience physical pleasure; if she is of this type she cannot ever be relieved by any aid except that of her parents, who are advised to find her a husband. Having done so, the man’s strong and vigorous intercourse alleviated the frenzy. She married an energetic young man, who, having discharged his martial responsibilities with vigor, she took to this with enthusiasm; under the appropriate treatment she flourished, revived, bloomed with the rosy shade of well-bein, and was entirely restored to health.”

It isn’t the first time I incounter this form of thinking which I find it hard to understand at times but I am aware that it is individuals perspectives. There isn’t anything wrong with masturbation; unless you off course over do it and condition yourself to only receive that form of climax; which is fine if you desire that. The same with pornography you essentially condition oneself to orgasm with the help of ponography so when the time comes to have actual intercourse it will be not as exciting or rather difficult to participtate in intercourse itself. I still believe women sexuality has been rather suffocated or treated as a crime when it’s rather sensual, fluid, very admirable. If as a society we let women sexuality flourish it would be a rather more healthy society as a whole instead of having fear, human race we would have more secure women that feel home within their own bodies.


Rachel P. Maines.(1999).The Technology Of Orgasm:University Press

History Of The Vibrator

We understand that women sexuality is rather misunderstood also has been apparently misguided for centuries. Until recently masturbation was considered wrong or an unhealthful act for women to reach bliss. Let’s dive a little into how women orgasms has been misunderstood as well as the medical industry this was profitable.

Let’s look into how women orgasms was an extra income for physicians. “Western medicine, described a medical treatment for a complaint that is no longer defined as a disease but that from at the least the fourth century B.C until the American Psychiatric Association dropped the term in 1952, was known as mainly as hysteria. This purported disease and its sister ailments displayed a symptomatology consistent with the normal functioning of female sexuality, for which relief, not surprisingly, was obtained through orgasm, either through intercourse in the marriage bed or by means of massage on the physician’s table.” Essentially due to the fact that most women can’t just orgasm thru penetration alone they required stimulation on the clitoris which is how the vibrator and other instruments were made to help physicians help women dilemma of being unsatisfied.

The vibrator to help with women hysteria (Sexuality) to help reach orgasm. “When the vibrator emerged as an electromechanical medical instrument at the end of the nineteenth century, it evolved from previous massage technologies in response to demand from physicians for more rapid and efficient physical therapies particularly for hysteria. Massage to orgasm of female patients was a staple of medical practice among some(But certainly not all) Western physicians from the time of Hippocrates until the 1920s, and mechanized this task significantly increased the number of patients a doctor could treat in a working day.”  Yes essentially vibrators were primarily made to help women achieve orgasm with the help of doctors.

Another interesting is how not being able to achieve orgasm for women was considered an illness. “Because the androcentric model of sexuality was thought necessary to the pro-natal and patriarchal institution of marriage and had been defended and justified by leaders of the western medical establishment in all centuries at least since the time of Hippocrates, marriage did not always “cure” the “disease” represented by the ordinary and uncomfortably persistent functioning of women sexuality outside the dominant sexual paradigm. This relegated the task of relieving the symptoms of female arousal to medical treatment, which defined female orgasm under clinical conditions as the crisis of an illness, the “hysterical paroxysm. In effect, doctors inherited the task of producing orgasm in women because it was a job nobody else wanted.” Not certain how an individual wouldn’t desire to help a partner reach bliss, rather sad how it is considered a job.

The main points is are how the vibrator came into the market; to cure a disease which was just having an orgasm to cure a women from ‘hysteria’. Also it makes me wonder if in the past till now how many individuals don’t pay attention to the clitoris which has thousands of nerves past superior to anything within the human body. Also how intercourse alone doesn’t necessarily mean women will have an all everlasting orgasm.


Rachel P. Maines.(1999).The Technology Of Orgasm:University Press

Sexuality Pedistal

Take a little moment within your precious life to join me in this trip. Wether you are a mistress,single, in a relationship, open-relationship, friend with benefits, “friends”, sugar daddy, sugar mama, cheating, maybe seeing your e.x, or thinking about them, having fantasies, married, widow. Etc.

Imagine feeling the smooth texture of their skin. Mesmerized by the intoxicating smell of them. Words don’t describe or come close to the cosmic union that intensifies with seconds that past. Lips engulfing both of us within a bubble of passion and heat as a marathon of sweat drips from the exhaustion of are bodies; movements that don’t know the limitations of the human body. Depth of this carnal feeling isn’t something that time erases, but harnesses the yearning to a greater degree. Roughness as your body explodes from the hunger which I desperately have inhibit. Releasing desire which has you addicted to me; it’s an intoxication which only you can cure with the medicine are earnestly seek. I will be the doctor as you are my patient, I’ll prescribe the right prescription. 

Regardless of who you are (Women,Male, in- between) enjoy your sexuality. With yourself or the luxury of enjoying someone else. 


Expanded Orgasm – 2

I suggest to refer to the first post for instructions on how to follow the “Breath of Fire”. Be aware that as an individual always keep expanding in every aspect of one own life; you never stop learning and expanding.

The Breathe Of Fire

“The breath of fire is a Kundalini yoga technique. It is a powerfully energizing breath that gets the little neurons in your brain humming as it clears your lungs and cleanses your blood. The breath of fire is aptly named. I usually feel a lot of heat spreading out from the center of my body when I do this breath. This rapid, continuous breath is done entirely through the nose. It can be done in any position, but it’s best learned standing or sitting up with a straight spine. The emphasis of this breath is on the exhale.” I personally enjoy this breath more than the others; while jogging this could really wake you up.

  1. “Exhale. As you exhale, push the air out by rapidly pulling your navel to your spine.”
  2. “To inhale, simply release your navel outward. The breath fills your lungs automatically.”
  3. Put your hand on your diaphragm to focus your attention there and to feel the power of this breathe.”
  4. “Begin with one breath every two seconds; work up to one or two breaths per second.”

Requires a little practice, but I could honestly say it is worth it. The only conflicting part is to consciously do it while having intercourse.

The Heart Breath

  1. “Yawn. Feel how the yawn opens the back of your throat and stretches out your whole mouth and face? That’s the feeling of the openness you want when you do the heart breath.”
  2. “Breath. Let your mouth fall open slightly. Relax your jaw and face, open the back of your throat, and breath in through your mouth, gently but fully.”
  3. “Exhale. Don’t push the breath out; just let it fall out with a gentle little sigh,ahh.”
  4. “Take in a much air as you can, as effortlessly as you can, then let it go.”

Practice the breath till you get remember them and incorporate them into intercourse or masturbation and feel the difference. Remember it does not have to be perfect; just jump in and do it.


Carrellas, Barbara. Urban Tantra: Sacred Sex for the Twenty-first Century. Celestial Arts, 2007

Expanded Orgasm

As a man and a women you could expand your orgasms much more than you are experiencing right now. As I am aware the strongest orgasms have been when I alter my breathing; teaching this to a partner could be more complex but with patience and guidance it could be very powerful. This is taught in Tantra as well in Kama Sutra it just requires conscious focus on breathing thru the nose or the mouth and depending when you use it the effects will vary. There is four type of breaths which I will separate into two posts so in essence two here and two in the next one.

“Breathe through your mouth while you are learning each breath (except for the breath of fire, which is always done through the nose). When you become familiar with the breathes, you can experiment with nose versus mouth breathing.”

The Bottom Breathing

Practice for five to ten minutes

“Bottom breathing is a gentle, easy way to calm you down and open up your senses. It’s the ideal breath to use when you want to move out of the busy or stressful state of doing into the easy, relaxed awareness of being.”

  1. “Sit on the floor with your legs crossed (or on a hardback chair with your feet flat on the floor) and your spine straight. With your hands, pull the fleshy part of your buttocks aside so that you are sitting on your sit bones. (once you learn the breath you can do it in any position.)
  2. “Begin by exhaling all the air out of your lungs.”
  3. “Then, as you inhale, very gently push out on the anal sphincter. Imagine that your anus can “Kiss” the floor or the seat of the chair.”
  4. “On the exhale, don’t do anything. Don’t contract your anus, don’t hold it; don’t push. Do nothing just let it go.

Keep repeating and you will start to feel your body start tingling. This isn’t easy and requires practice as with anything else. One way to implement this while having intercourse or receiving oral is to start breathing into your mouth relaxed; then let go. Reaching orgasm will require more time but the explosive feeling is worth the wait. Be aware that orgasm is a state of mind and feeling while ejaculation is the release of a fluid.

The Circular Breathe

“The essence of the circular breath is breathing in a continuous flow, with no break or pause between the inhale and the exhale. The inhale flows effortlessly into the exhale, which flows seamlessly into the next inhale. You can do this breath sitting, standing, or lying down.” You could imagine this breathe as when you are jogging and breathing into and out of your mouth. As well when intercourse is rough and animatistic is thru the mouth that vocal and breathing is done.

  1. “Breathe gently through your mouth, keeping your jaw relaxed and your lips slightly parted.”
  2. “Feel the back of your throat open and relax. Do not force or push the breath. The inhale will require a bit more effort than the exhale, which should just gently fall out.”
  3. “Imagine your breath making a complete unbroken circle.”

” This breathe is particularly useful for circulating erotic energy around your own body and between yourself and your partners. It builds and moves energy, and it intensifies feelings both emotional and physical”.

For men who desire to not ejaculate which is releasing semen you could consciously breathe thru your nose slowly. Inhale then relax and exhale; this will slow everything down and its practiced while meditating. Which will lower your arousal level, but you will be able to have self-control while being able to sensuously enjoy the person you are with for longer periods of time.


Carrellas, Barbara. Urban Tantra: Sacred Sex for the Twenty-first Century. Celestial Arts, 2007

Tempted Soul

Little short passages I wrote that are going to be added at the end of the book but not as stories. After this I will continue to write about intercourse and relationships again.

As I lay awake at nights contemplating the feelings in which my heart aches at night and body tenses as I remember your scent. The feeling of our bodies touching one another as we collide in a heat of passion as your ecstasy fuels my feeling of desire deepen to new depth that my soul didn’t know. The rapture of this feeling is deep that even now as time has passed I still feel you. The soft gentles caresses that I felt when indulging in pleasures that my body has not felt since I have last laid eyes on you. A smile that captivated my senses and other feelings which soared higher than the sun itself. This feelings of agony and pleasure mix with a hint of compassion reminds me of nights when you laid in my embrace as you felt happy and safe and every problem you had just melted as you lay in my presence. As I write this I remember as warm water brought are two heated bodies together as we soared the ladder of blissful climax in which we intertwined till we couldn’t physically do anymore. As are souls ached for more are bodies responded with the sweet guidance that only the heart will let us feel. As I sit here on this beach hearing the waves crash and a soft breeze pushing against my warm body; I only desire to know what your warm body would feel against mine.

As I contemplate this memories I feel a turmoil unfold within me. Memories that wash over me as this feelings are ready to rupture into a million pieces. I tend to listen as the winds brought forward your words. They landed gently onto my soul; promises that weren’t kept. Ideas that I contemplated as you brought a gift bearing more than I ever foretold. Looking into your eyes I seen a soul that yearn for more. Not mistakenly your eyes watered as I disappeared unto the unknown. As I came back with resilience your eyes gleamed with hope; brought bearing a gift which you unwrapped with a tempted soul.

Writing this very late I can’t help wonder about you. My heart and soul yearn to know what is like to be in heaven again with you. Remembering as once you where mine and only mine. Your tender embraces feeling the roughness of my desire as we sychronize into one rhythm. Hearing your moans echo agaist the wall driving me to lose all control and sense and witness the beauty of a women laying underneath me. My admiration for you has no bounds; my desire is deep; my love knows no bounds; my body aches to indulge in pleasure. As are bodies collide and laughter flows into time. Memories left in the sand which only time will remove. Nonetheless only eternity will remember the passion that we share and time can’t completely destroy.