How long does the average man last in bed? According to (NBC News) “A survey of sex therapists concluded the optimal amount of time for sexual intercourse was 3 to 13 minutes “. During this age where man are taught that they should be able to last longer, in which they could. Most women in the United States do not reach orgasm within 3 – 13 minutes. Look at Sex and Relationship blog under to see the studies. Also if men are not doing any type of foreplay to warm up the women; the probabilities of her having orgasm decrease.
One thing I found interesting about this article was “Researcher Eric Corty said he hoped to ease the minds of those who believe that more of something good is better, and if you really want to satisfy your partner, you should last forever.” This means that man and women have to learn how to help one another last longer. For men and women it is possible to learn how to have multiple orgasms. Men have to learn how to use there PC muscles and tightened the muscles before ejaculating.
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Remember it is your sexual life and your responsibility, takes time and practice, satisfy your women or your partner.
references – http://www.nbcnews.com/id/23923591/ns/health-sexual_health/t/when-it-comes-sex-length-time-matters/#.VO5UPyn6wy4
This topic did intrigue me when I spoke to a friend of mine. The topic went something ” Do you think guys and girls could be just Friends”. He believs that it actually possible, but I do not think it is possible. Why?
According to Dictionary.com a friend is “a person attached to another by feelings of affection or personal regard.” In this sense there has to be a mutual understanding of feelings. Before this stage of mutual feelings there has to be time to develop this feelings. The reason I believe just being friends is impossible is because there has to be an interest in the other individual to continue to develop the feelings.
An example would be if a guy and a girl barley met, if they continued communicating is because there is an interest. If there was no type of interest in one person to the other they would just be acquaintances. I believe there has to be some sense of attraction if not the friendship would just be platonic. If the friendship was just platonic, wouldn’t that just be acquaintance; essentially just a person you may know.
If you think about a best friend or a close friend there is some sense of attraction, but their might be boundaries on how far one individual will go. Underneath the topics spoken about might me joking around even maybe flirtatious; but are this individuals just friends?
The question is: can a man and a women just be friends or is that just an acquaintance?
Having intercourse could take multiple turns depending on the partner. There is a syndrome which is called “Small Penis Syndrome” in which man believe there penis is small. According to Kinsey Institute there is a subject called Micropenis. ” The term is used by researchers to refer to penises less than 2.8 inches (7 centimeters) in length when stretched. This condition is thought to affect only 0.6% of men, or 6 in 1000 men, and to be caused by inadequate testosterone at a late stage of fetal development.” ( Kinsey Institute). Small penis syndrome seems to be made out of a false belief and Micropenis is a real miniature size penis compare to the average male.
This belief may off come upon man watching pornography at a young age. Also adolescents tend to joke about who has the bigger penis. “On Average men penises 5 – 6.5 length and circumference of 4 – 5 inches” (Gebhard and Johnson, 1979,p 120).
I once heard a saying in which ” it’s not the size of the ship, it’s the motion of the ocean”. Am not saying size does not matter; it does contribute. Also I notice depending to a women preference size could matter. Contradicting? It varies from women to women, but the individuals who put more emphasis on size is men. It is a deep rooted insecurity in which leads to false belief in which could lead to bad intercourse.
“A comprehensive worldwide study of more than 40 independent penis size research projects, undertaken since 1942, has come up with a general penis size guideline. With over 11,000 participants, the survey puts the average erect size of the adult penis between 5.5 inches and 6.2 inches in length and 4.7 inches and 5.1 inches in girth. In addition, according to a recent survey, 90% of women prefer a wide penis to a long one because increases in length do little to enhance her physical pleasure. ” ( AskMen.com )
(Gebhard and Johnson, 1979,p 120).
According to a study posted in ABC about 75% percent of women don’t reach orgasm with just intercourse alone. About 10 to 15% could reach orgasm with toys and a little bit of oral sex. Does this mean that man don’t understand the female body? Or does this just have to be due to extreme pressure about reaching orgasm for women. In the book ” what do women want by Daniel Bergner” There a series of study in which they try to find what women want. In the book sexologist spoke about women sexuality is put down in society. Does women sexuality being put down come into play when having intercourse with a partner? I believe so. There a specific test in which participants are put to watch Porn to see what activates a women desire. In the test the women place a device in the vaginal to notice if anything changed in the vaginal. As well man where being tested and the results showed that women got excited by Heterosexual, HomoSexual porn and man just heterosexual. The findings where shown that even thought consciously women weren’t getting excited. The natural impulses said something differently, does this mean that social norms bring women sexuality down? Or to be more constircted for society to function and to look appropriate. Abc Study – http://abcnews.go.com/Health/ReproductiveHealth/sex-study-female-orgasm-eludes-majority-women/story?id=8485289
This is a very interesting topic that has been debated by professionals and just individuals. Does intercourse play a crucial part of a relationship or to keep the relationship healthy in terms that both individuals are happy.
In the book ” Social Intelligence by Daniel Goleman ” The author say’s ” The resulting feelings have far – reaching consequences that ripple throughout our body, sending out cascades of hormones that regulate biological systems from our heart to our immune cells. Perhaps most astonishing, science now tracks connections between the most stressful relationships and the operation of specific genes that regulate immune system”. In other words the people we communicate or close to us give us better health or worse.
What does this have to do with sex? You see the relationship you have with your sex partner or just a friend with benefits is affecting you as you’r affecting them. If you have a healthy communication with your partner and sex is great the beneficaries are both, while the opposite is true as well.
Is sex crucial for a relationship? It apparently is. Depending in what type of relationship it is the intimate levels may vary. Also every individual needs and wants are different so to the extent that intercourse is required will differ in between relationships.
In laymen terms sex is just fun and something that should be enjoyed between people. It shouldn’t have to be a chore, but something you desire and want naturally from the individual. Women are sexual beings so enjoy her or him and live life.