Pornography Affecting You?

Pornography is a damaging entertainment if misused in many different ways. The association of feeling desire with a monitor begins to train your mind to feel that way when watching porn. There will be a time where the act of having intercourse shall come and the desire won’t be there. The natural tendency for humans to have intercourse and have the intimate connection could be damaged by watching pornography.

According to University of Minnesota

“A meta-analysis of 46 published research studies on the effects of pornography on sexual perpetration, attitudes regarding intimate relationships, and attitudes regarding the rape myth found that exposure to pornographic material puts one at increased risk for committing sexual offenses, experiencing difficulties in one’s intimate relationships, and accepting rape myths (i.e. beliefs that trivialize rape or blame the victim for the crime). Specifically, there is a 22% increase in sexual perpetration; a 20% increase in negative intimate relationships; and a 31% increase in believing rape myths. A total sample size of 12,323 people comprised the present meta-analysis. The studies confirmed the link between increased risk for negative development when exposed to pornography.”

In laymen term individuals who watch porn tend to behave a little more aggressive than the average individual who does not. Lets not forget this is in general not always on individual cases, pornography could help couples also. The key is communication and understanding one another needs and wants. Forcing an individual into something is not necessarily something which is needed and could be more damaging than positive.

Also aggressiveness is not all together bad, it is off course bad if its forced upon. Some individuals enjoy being sadistic in sex; the difference is that both partners agree. At the end it comes down to communication and what is the persons intentions.


Overindulgence in pornography has long term affects, it seperates reality with fantasy.

1 Vanessa Vega and Neil M. Malamuth, “Predicting Sexual Aggression: The Role of Pornography in the Context of General and Specific Risk Factors,” Aggressive Behavior, Volume 33 (2007): pp. 104–117.

2 Elizabeth Oddone-Paolucci, Mark Genuis and Claudio Violato, The Changing Family and Child Development, (Aldershot: Ashgate, 2000), pp. 48-59.

3 M. Allen, D. D’Alessio, and K. Brezgel, “A Meta-Analysis Summarizing the Effects of Pornography II,” Human Communication Research, Vol. 22, Number 2 (December, 1995): pp. 258-283.

4 Neil Malamuth, T. Addison, and J. Koss, “Pornography and Sexual Aggression: Are there Reliable Effects and Can We Understand Them?” Annual Review of Sex Research, Vol. 11 (2000): pp. 26-94.



Rats and Human Sex?

Do animals or specifically rats have any way of feeling pleasure or desire?

According to the book “What Do Women Want?” It seems that rats look to prolong intercourse and receive pleasure from intercourse. “McClintock documented, too, that the female, if her cage allowed her to evade her partner, made sure to slip away from him, constantly, in the midst of his pumping, so the sex didn’t end too quickly for her. Under any circumstances, in rat as in monkeys sex, the animals attach, copulate, detach, and reattach repeatedly until the male ejaculates. The female rat, experiments showed, like to prolong the process, to make it last longer that the male otherwise would. All of this, the solicitations and the preference for more drawn – out intercourse, suggested will and desire”. ( PG 182-183 Daniel Bergner )

Apparently in monkeys and rats tend to prolong intercourse for pleasure, but also to increase the probability of offspring. If rats seek ways to receive and expand intercourse for the sheer desire of having pleasure, then would this be the same for women? I grew up with the norm that only males where the most sexually active, but could women be as active as a male? I believe that women desire for intercourse is as great as a male or even more. Male and females tend to look for pleasure and desire and passion from one another, off course the human connection also.

If female rat prolong intercourse, then why not prolong intercourse between individuals.

References – ( Daniel,Bergner. What Do Women Want? United States : HarperCollins Publishers Inc. June 2013)

Relationships and communication

One of the few very important things to learn early on is communication. If you sit down and think why would communication be important to you’r daily life? The answer is that you communicate with individuals on a daily basis, hopefully. Growing into adulthood people go to school and socialize on a daily basis for majority of children. This is time to tune in to social norms and understand other individuals. To have successful relationships you would need to understand other individuals and most importantly yourself.

In the modern age where we are the constant go we forget to fulfill are basic needs. This within it self is very damaging if you cohabit with a partner. According to American Psychological Association divorce rates have risen “Marriage and divorce are both common experiences. In Western cultures, more than 90 percent of people marry by age 50. Healthy marriages are good for couples’ mental and physical health. They are also good for children; growing up in a happy home protects children from mental, physical, educational and social problems. However, about 40 to 50 percent of married couples in the United States divorce. The divorce rate for subsequent marriages is even higher.” Am concluding that many factors contribute to divorce rates , but within couples you need to communicate.

As humans we tend to be reactive to situations instead of being responsive to the situation. Reacting you just respond very quickly while being responsive you think before you speak. Imagine if you are arguing and instead of just sending the individual to hell you think about why they are angry in the first place. Two things happen there

1. you stepped out of the situation and are thinking why the individual is angry or upset

2. Instead of reacting and making the situation more serious and more damaging you are able to relax before responding.

Remember at times we think we are correct, but it does not hurt to see another person perspective.

Overnight Better Sex

One of the things I notice is that men tend to rush into intercourse to fast. I don’t blame you there just beautiful women that are very beautiful and you desire them. The thing about rushing into intercourse is that you blow foreplay and warming her up into sex, not to mention she would enjoy sex a lot more. Learn to have self control when it comes to sex, this means do foreplay and mess with her. Things that you could implement rite away is look at your palm and get your index finger and middle finger and insert your fingers into her vaginal, with your thumb stimulate her clitoris.

Also observe her body and see in which way she responds better and moans to what you’r doing. At times going a little faster or rougher with your fingers could stimulate sensitive spots. Remember you could use tongue and caress her body, some women respond to rougher touching and other to softer. Play with all her body and depending too what she responds to repeat, this means you have to consciously be within the moment. A very attractive thing to do is for her to know that she is the only person that has you’r full attention at that moment.

Until she is craving you so badly that she is demanding you to have sex with you do you enter. This takes self control, but knowing that you’r In charge of the whole moment is very dominant. A way to make missionary more pleasing is to put a pillow under her back this makes you able to hit her cervix which is very sensitive. If you have good communication with your partner then just ask what she enjoys and what she doesn’t. Remember always have variety if not intercourse could get boring and no one likes to be bored.

How Long Do Man Last?

How long does the average man last in bed? According to (NBC News) “A survey of sex therapists concluded the optimal amount of time for sexual intercourse was 3 to 13 minutes “. During this age where man are taught that they should be able to last longer, in which they could. Most women in the United States do not reach orgasm within 3 – 13 minutes. Look at Sex and Relationship blog under to see the studies. Also if men are not doing any type of foreplay to warm up the women; the probabilities of her having orgasm decrease.

One thing I found interesting about this article was “Researcher Eric Corty said he hoped to ease the minds of those who believe that more of something good is better, and if you really want to satisfy your partner, you should last forever.” This means that man and women have to learn how to help one another last longer. For men and women it is possible to learn how to have multiple orgasms. Men have to learn how to use there PC muscles and tightened the muscles before ejaculating.

If your interested in learning how to master multiple orgasms for males go here

Remember it is your sexual life and your responsibility, takes time and practice, satisfy your women or your partner.

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Can Women and Men be Friends?

This topic did intrigue me when I spoke to a friend of mine. The topic went something ” Do you think guys and girls could be just Friends”. He believs that it actually possible, but I do not think it is possible. Why?

According to a friend is “a person attached to another by feelings of affection or personal regard.” In this sense there has to be a mutual understanding of feelings. Before this stage of mutual feelings there has to be time to develop this feelings. The reason I believe just being friends is impossible is because there has to be an interest in the other individual to continue to develop the feelings.

An example would be if a guy and a girl barley met, if they continued communicating is because there is an interest. If there was no type of interest in one person to the other they would just be acquaintances. I believe there has to be some sense of attraction if not the friendship would just be platonic. If the friendship was just platonic, wouldn’t that just be acquaintance; essentially just a person you may know.

If you think about a best friend or a close friend there is some sense of attraction, but their might be boundaries on how far one individual will go. Underneath the topics spoken about might me joking around even maybe flirtatious; but are this individuals just friends?

The question is: can a man and a women just be friends or is that just an acquaintance?

Does Size Matter

Having intercourse could take multiple turns depending on the partner. There is a syndrome which is called “Small Penis Syndrome” in which man believe there penis is small. According to Kinsey Institute there is a subject called Micropenis. ” The term is used by researchers to refer to penises less than 2.8 inches (7 centimeters) in length when stretched. This condition is thought to affect only 0.6% of men, or 6 in 1000 men, and to be caused by inadequate testosterone at a late stage of fetal development.” ( Kinsey Institute). Small penis syndrome seems to be made out of a false belief and Micropenis is a real miniature size penis compare to the average male.

This belief may off come upon man watching pornography at a young age. Also adolescents tend to joke about who has the bigger penis. “On Average men penises 5 – 6.5 length and circumference of 4 – 5 inches” (Gebhard and Johnson, 1979,p 120).

I once heard a saying in which ” it’s not the size of the ship, it’s the motion of the ocean”. Am not saying size does not matter; it does contribute. Also I notice depending to a women preference size could matter. Contradicting? It varies from women to women, but the individuals who put more emphasis on size is men. It is a deep rooted insecurity in which leads to false belief in which could lead to bad intercourse.

“A comprehensive worldwide study of more than 40 independent penis size research projects, undertaken since 1942, has come up with a general penis size guideline. With over 11,000 participants, the survey puts the average erect size of the adult penis between 5.5 inches and 6.2 inches in length and 4.7 inches and 5.1 inches in girth. In addition, according to a recent survey, 90% of women prefer a wide penis to a long one because increases in length do little to enhance her physical pleasure. ” ( )
(Gebhard and Johnson, 1979,p 120).

Are man bad at Intercourse?

According to a study posted in ABC about 75% percent of women don’t reach orgasm with just intercourse alone. About 10 to 15% could reach orgasm with toys and a little bit of oral sex. Does this mean that man don’t understand the female body? Or does this just have to be due to extreme pressure about reaching orgasm for women. In the book ” what do women want by Daniel Bergner” There a series of study in which they try to find what women want. In the book sexologist spoke about women sexuality is put down in society. Does women sexuality being put down come into play when having intercourse with a partner? I believe so. There a specific test in which participants are put to watch Porn to see what activates a women desire. In the test the women place a device in the vaginal to notice if anything changed in the vaginal. As well man where being tested and the results showed that women got excited by Heterosexual, HomoSexual porn and man just heterosexual. The findings where shown that even thought consciously women weren’t getting excited. The natural impulses said something differently, does this mean that social norms bring women sexuality down? Or to be more constircted for society to function and to look appropriate. Abc Study –

Intercourse and Relationships

This is a very interesting topic that has been debated by professionals and just individuals. Does intercourse play a crucial part of a relationship or to keep the relationship healthy in terms that both individuals are happy.

In the book ” Social Intelligence by Daniel Goleman ” The author say’s ” The resulting feelings have far – reaching consequences that ripple throughout our body, sending out cascades of hormones that regulate biological systems from our heart to our immune cells. Perhaps most astonishing, science now tracks connections between the most stressful relationships and the operation of specific genes that regulate immune system”. In other words the people we communicate or close to us give us better health or worse.

What does this have to do with sex? You see the relationship you have with your sex partner or just a friend with benefits is affecting you as you’r affecting them. If you have a healthy communication with your partner and sex is great the beneficaries are both, while the opposite is true as well.

Is sex crucial for a relationship? It apparently is. Depending in what type of relationship it is the intimate levels may vary. Also every individual needs and wants are different so to the extent that intercourse is required will differ in between relationships.

In laymen terms sex is just fun and something that should be enjoyed between people. It shouldn’t have to be a chore, but something you desire and want naturally from the individual. Women are sexual beings so enjoy her or him and live life.

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