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History Of The Vibrator

We understand that women sexuality is rather misunderstood also has been apparently misguided for centuries. Until recently masturbation was considered wrong or an unhealthful act for women to reach bliss. Let’s dive a little into how women orgasms has been misunderstood as well as the medical industry this was profitable.

Let’s look into how women orgasms was an extra income for physicians. “Western medicine, described a medical treatment for a complaint that is no longer defined as a disease but that from at the least the fourth century B.C until the American Psychiatric Association dropped the term in 1952, was known as mainly as hysteria. This purported disease and its sister ailments displayed a symptomatology consistent with the normal functioning of female sexuality, for which relief, not surprisingly, was obtained through orgasm, either through intercourse in the marriage bed or by means of massage on the physician’s table.” Essentially due to the fact that most women can’t just orgasm thru penetration alone they required stimulation on the clitoris which is how the vibrator and other instruments were made to help physicians help women dilemma of being unsatisfied.

The vibrator to help with women hysteria (Sexuality) to help reach orgasm. “When the vibrator emerged as an electromechanical medical instrument at the end of the nineteenth century, it evolved from previous massage technologies in response to demand from physicians for more rapid and efficient physical therapies particularly for hysteria. Massage to orgasm of female patients was a staple of medical practice among some(But certainly not all) Western physicians from the time of Hippocrates until the 1920s, and mechanized this task significantly increased the number of patients a doctor could treat in a working day.” ¬†Yes essentially vibrators were primarily made to help women achieve orgasm with the help of doctors.

Another interesting is how not being able to achieve orgasm for women was considered an illness. “Because the androcentric model of sexuality was thought necessary to the pro-natal and patriarchal institution of marriage and had been defended and justified by leaders of the western medical establishment in all centuries at least since the time of Hippocrates, marriage did not always “cure” the “disease” represented by the ordinary and uncomfortably persistent functioning of women sexuality outside the dominant sexual paradigm. This relegated the task of relieving the symptoms of female arousal to medical treatment, which defined female orgasm under clinical conditions as the crisis of an illness, the “hysterical paroxysm. In effect, doctors inherited the task of producing orgasm in women because it was a job nobody else wanted.” Not certain how an individual wouldn’t desire to help a partner reach bliss, rather sad how it is considered a job.

The main points is are how the vibrator came into the market; to cure a disease which was just having an orgasm to cure a women from ‘hysteria’. Also it makes me wonder if in the past till now how many individuals don’t pay attention to the clitoris which has thousands of nerves past superior to anything within the human body. Also how intercourse alone doesn’t necessarily mean women will have an all everlasting orgasm.

reference

Rachel P. Maines.(1999).The Technology Of Orgasm:University Press

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Monogamy Dead?

This will be a two-part article the first based on research and the other part me speaking to my dating mentor. I have always found this topic rather interesting because I know as a society we look for security and something consistent even thought deep down we might desire something else. I have seen many women and spoken to women who have struggled with having sexual desire or even feeling anything but staying with a partner because of peer pressure, society stigma against women sexuality, “The right thing to do”, feeling bad, or following a close friend or someone else advise because they might know better.

First I started to notice in couple therapy they put desire down, because they know after sometime it is hard to reach. “But maybe of all, the circle was being consecrated as psychiatric doctrine because it gave sex therapists and couples counselors a solution to one of their most prevalent and stubborn problems–women’s faint or non-existent desire for their husband or long-term partner. The solution was low expectations. Clinicians had latched on to the diagram. They’d distilled it into a three-word lesson that they taught in treatment: “Desire follows arousal.” They taught that arousal might take some time. Patience was necessity; slowness and faintness were entirely fine; “lust” should be banished from the vocabulary.” I found this rather sad the fact that we have to lower expectations because the desire wouldn’t be there. ” Occasionally Bason acknowledged that the new might be a key to combustion”. I have also seen how if a women was with a partner for ten years and she couldn’t desire or get”wet” but give her a new partner and all that changes.

It’s interesting are we being led against something biological? ” And Brotto wasn’t maintaining that she could grant her patients what they actually wished for. She had quoted to me from their files: “I want to have sex where I feel like I’m Craving it.” She sighed. She couldn’t provide that, not without a semimiracle or someone new in the patients bed. I asked her about an irony within the DSM work: that while disorders were supposed to be abnormal, HSDD seemed to be a normal abnormality, a condition that was largely not psychiatric but created by our most common domestic arrangement. It makes me wonder how much of women erotic and desire do we really understand? “Leaning against the rail of his viewing tower, staring down at his monkeys and remembering the small cages that distorted the sexual interaction between females and males, Wallen thought that monogamy was, for women, a culture care–one of many cultural cage–distorting libido. He spoke about the research Brotto had mentioned: hundreds of women followed for fifteen years or longer, their relationships, biochemistry, desire relentlessly recorded. “The idea that monogamy serves the natural sexuality of women may not be accurate,” he said”.

Having new partners I have personally notice it liberates women and I noted a new sense of relief. ” Meana was sure that it wasn’t, ” I have male friends who tell me about new relationships. They say they’ve never been with a women ho’s so sexual. They’re thrilled. And I’m thinking, just wait.” Not only did monogamy not enhance female sexuality, but it was likely worse for women than men.” I at times have seen women stick it out and I understand. At times they might deviate and then feel bad, and I am like your only doing what you deeply desire. It makes me wonder if Monogamy is really all that it is made out to be, I am starting to notice that swinging might actually be better for the long-term.

references

What Do Women Want

Sex At Dawn

Sexual Fluidity

 

Best Sex Positions?

I was asked what are the best sex positions that I would recommend? I smiled and laughed and said it isn’t about the position is about your perspective. It’s your attitude and perspective toward something that makes your experience and that makes your idea about it. Yes certain positions allow for more stimulation than others, but it really comes down to how you interpret situations.

Imagine what I am about to describe, if you’re a man imagine a women doing cow-girl and if you’re a women lets say you are riding him. Imagine your with this amazing women who you just love to be with. She is on top enjoying herself as she moans to the world and is saying your name. She is touching herself slowly as you see her hair going side to side. You are captivated about her sexuality and the way she is moving herself knowing she is enjoying herself. Now she is grinding on you as you guys make eye contact she leans into you as she kisses you slowly and passionately. Now imagine the same situation and you are thinking you are bored, it’s okay sex and it isn’t all that. Matter of fact you are in your own mind thinking what to do next! The only difference is your thought process.

One of the things is to change your perspective, I personally found this hard until I started to meditate. I have been meditating for about three years now and here and there I have stopped to see the difference. When I stop meditating I notice I become more emotional and make very impulsive decisions and the way I am changes. On the opposite end when I meditate I become very relaxed and calm and behave rather different. I also have more control over myself and my thought process. I recommend meditating to enjoy sexuality a little more or if you just want to relax and be more calm. It really comes down to how you think about things that’s why meditation helps a lot.

To be sincere most common intercourse comes from this positions Missionary, Doggy-Style, Cow-girl, Eagle Spread. All other’s are just modifications from this positions and what could make intercourse more appealing is just the locations in which you have intercourse. Yes the partner you are with also counts; but what I notice what really counts is how you see things. So what is the best position? That really depend on how you see intercourse and who you are with.