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Expanded Orgasm – 2

I suggest to refer to the first post for instructions on how to follow the “Breath of Fire”. Be aware that as an individual always keep expanding in every aspect of one own life; you never stop learning and expanding.

The Breathe Of Fire

“The breath of fire is a Kundalini yoga technique. It is a powerfully energizing breath that gets the little neurons in your brain humming as it clears your lungs and cleanses your blood. The breath of fire is aptly named. I usually feel a lot of heat spreading out from the center of my body when I do this breath. This rapid, continuous breath is done entirely through the nose. It can be done in any position, but it’s best learned standing or sitting up with a straight spine. The emphasis of this breath is on the exhale.” I personally enjoy this breath more than the others; while jogging this could really wake you up.

  1. “Exhale. As you exhale, push the air out by rapidly pulling your navel to your spine.”
  2. “To inhale, simply release your navel outward. The breath fills your lungs automatically.”
  3. Put your hand on your diaphragm to focus your attention there and to feel the power of this breathe.”
  4. “Begin with one breath every two seconds; work up to one or two breaths per second.”

Requires a little practice, but I could honestly say it is worth it. The only conflicting part is to consciously do it while having intercourse.

The Heart Breath

  1. “Yawn. Feel how the yawn opens the back of your throat and stretches out your whole mouth and face? That’s the feeling of the openness you want when you do the heart breath.”
  2. “Breath. Let your mouth fall open slightly. Relax your jaw and face, open the back of your throat, and breath in through your mouth, gently but fully.”
  3. “Exhale. Don’t push the breath out; just let it fall out with a gentle little sigh,ahh.”
  4. “Take in a much air as you can, as effortlessly as you can, then let it go.”

Practice the breath till you get remember them and incorporate them into intercourse or masturbation and feel the difference. Remember it does not have to be perfect; just jump in and do it.

reference

Carrellas, Barbara. Urban Tantra: Sacred Sex for the Twenty-first Century. Celestial Arts, 2007

Sex Routine

I once heard that people get bored with intercourse because it becomes routine and I thought could something this amazing and interesting become dull? Off course we have to understand that everyone has different schedules, different lifestyles and have different priorities. Once we reach adult hood most of us stop learning, if we pick up a book is cause we are force too. This means most individuals sex life stagnates the same way everything else does. Today we will be talking about a few positions that could bring a new form of experience, don’t worry their basic and doesn’t require much flexibility or killing yourself.

Many position’s you already do could be modified essentially add a little different twist and could stimulate other regions in the vaginal. One of them is missionary position which essentially the man is lying on top of the women, this is the position in which maybe everyone who has had intercourse has experienced. This position could stimulate the clitoris if you do a rocking motion. One way to modify this position is by putting a solid pillow which does not fold in under pressure much. Place the pillow under her lower back and above her butt to raise the pelvis. This would allow a more diagonal entry which allows to stimulate other regions within the vaginal.

missionary-position

Another form off modifying missionary position is for the man to be on his knees and the women to have her legs held by the partner in the air. You could also have one leg down and one up and switch them when you desire to or just have both of her legs two the side of the man knees to relax. Depending on this different positions the depth of penetration and motion could be very stimulating. As a man when you are on your knees do a motion of upwards to stimulate the g-spot. Be careful if your above average in penis size cause it could hurt the women in the depth you are going in her.

missionary-position-modified

In the above positions you could still put a pillow under and see what is more satisfying and stimulating. Remember if the women is engorged because the vaginal is made of the same tissue like the penis so it gets puffy the women will feel more due to the fact that the interior walls are puffy and the surrounding area of penis will add friction to the walls.

One more advice in intercourse the way to last longer is to not get overtly excited, it’s rather calming down. The PNS  also know as Parasympathetic system “The part of the involuntary nervous system that serves to slow the heart rate, increase intestinal and glandular activity, and relax the sphincter muscles” Essentially this is the system that relax’s you, during intercourse breathe in thru your nose slowly this will help you stay calm instead of speeding up. You add this with kegel exercises and you could last as long as you want to with practice.

One other advice is when males are having intercourse they don’t go all the way out and in. Basically it’s like you’re using half the penis instead of the full size. Also going all the way out in and in could stimulate the nerve endings in the opening of the vaginal; this is very arousing and could be in a sense teasing. Yes to some degree this requires discipline and meditation helps, but if you desire more experiences sexually you have to try out new things.

Parasympathetic Nervous system

Sympathetic Nervous System

Rape Fantasies

I was hearing a podcast and this conversation came up, it was a group of feminist talking about how they are asked about rape fantasies and if it’s wrong to have them if their feminist. This is a topic which I don’t agree with; always have consent but the topic is researched and from personal experience I believe women sexuality is really misunderstood. Women sexuality is really constrained and what exactly do women desire, off course every women is different but nonetheless it makes for an interesting conversation. Only read this if you are mature and trying to maybe understand why you have certain interest in certain taboo things.

Before going into this topic the definition of feminism is “the advocacy of women’s rights on the grounds of political, social, and economic equality to men” so if you feel like this is against feminism is entirely wrong. To have certain fetishes or kinks or fantasies doesn’t go against the fact that women want to be equal to men. Remember everyone has different forms of reaching orgasms and sexuality is different for everyone.

We will start with a few stories of women and rape fantasies. “I am a young virgin peasant girl whose family is one of many that works the land of a rich landowner; the landowner or his son forces himself on me, and I know I have no choice but to let him do what he wants. Or I am the school whore or a social misfit, and the football team is taking turns with me. I am still coming to terms with the fact that things that I find to be wrong—rape; taking advantage of those without power—are the things that bring me to mind-blowing orgasms.”

“The rape scene from The Accused, I’m ashamed to say.”
“A married, older man that I work with, who I’m not even all that attracted to, fucking me from behind against a whiteboard—we work at a school—and hitting my face against it. Then he turns me around so that I can fellate him. Him coming on my face.”

Women have confessed and I’ve researched into this things of why women desire things that are considered “wrong”. Individuals who are unfaithful who are into BDSM which stands for Bondage, dominance, Submission/Sadism, and Masochism. I ask myself why are people into forms of punishment or being dominated by another person. The answers I’ve gotten from rape fantasies is the act of letting go being taken over, having no control of the outcome. Does this come from genetics that in pre historic times man forced them selfs upon women? Or could this be more of an innate animalistic instinct?

People fantasize things, but it does not mean that they would actually like to be raped. One is theory in the mind and it actually happening could have fatal consequences. It makes me wonder if this is more of a society condition of constrains or individuals trying to release themselves from everyday stresses. The research does not conclude and still requires much more research to be done. One thing is for certain is that individuals desire something different not just the lovely things portrait in cinema.

Personal experience and speaking to women has shown me that most women are fearful to really explore intercourse. They afraid that they will be judged or will deem as bad women, and spat on. I notice that even thought women do desire to have the tenderness they also desire the thrill the adventure with a hint of danger. A few past lovers confessed that they where afraid to explore certain things with their previous lover because they might not be liked or seen slutty. Remember everyone has their own way of expressing sexuality, don’t hate yourself or look down upon yourself because most likely than not someone else has the same desire. Just be aware that if you are trying to hurt someone then seek help; always go for consent.

References

Bergen, Daniel( 2013) What Do Women Want? HarperCollins Publishers ( Australia) Pty. Ltd.

What are Emotions

Every individual feels emotions even people who are considered to some degree psychopathic. Emotions vary from individual to individual but emotions could be a very positive thing and sometimes seems rather an annoyance. I will show you what emotions mean and how you can re-direct your own emotions into positive outlets that could benefit you in you’r own life.

According to Dictionary.com emotions are “an affective state of consciousness in which joy, sorrow, fear, hate, or the like, is experienced, as distinguished from cognitive and volitional states of consciousness.” Essentially emotions are felt after you had a certain thought about a particular thing. Imagine a situation where you seen a snake and you thought be careful. This would lead to the emotion of fear, in a different scenario you know how to deal with snakes so you think this will be fun. The different form of thinking will make you feel excited and not fearful.

Feelings are their to guide us and tell us wisdom about ourselves. According to The Secret Language of Feelings by Cal Bryan “What are feelings for? Why are they all good? Fortunately, the answer is very simple. All feelings are good, because their purpose is to provide us with information, direction and motivation that will help us create a satisfying life.Our feelings are a product of our internal wisdom, which is attempting to guide us and motivate us to satisfy our needs, wants and desires”. The feelings or emotions we feel are there for a reason, it’s the feelings which tell us where to go next and what we really want.

A good example the author uses is a car and how we need to maintain the vehicle to function properly for us. The methapor is ”

Now to our metaphor. A car has basic needs, such as the need for oil or gas, that must be attended to in order to keep it running in a reliable way. To ensure that these needs are addressed, cars are equipped with indicator lights that go on when there’s an action the driver needs to take.

For example, a car needs oil to function reliably. When the oil gets low, the indicator light on the car’s dashboard alerts the driver, so that she can take the appropriate action of filling the oil reservoir. (Author’s note: I use “she” as the universal pronoun throughout this book, to avoid the awkward “he or she” and the plural “they.”)

We’re like the car—we also have needs that must be satisfied in order to function optimally. Our feelings indicate what need is calling for attention, just like the lights and gauges on the dashboard of a car alert us to what the car needs”.

The author points out eleven different feelings and what they mean

  • Bored – When you feel bored, it is a voice inside of you saying, “I need to experience growth and challenge in my life.”
  • Anger – Anger is a voice inside that says, “I think what is going on here is unfair!”
  • Guilty – Anger has a twin sister and her name is Guilt. When you feel guilty it is a voice inside of you saying, “I feel I’ve been unfair to someone.”
  • Sad – Sadness is a voice that says, “I have lost someone or something important to me.”
  • Lonely – When you feel lonely, it’s a voice inside of you saying, “I need to be with someone I care about and who cares about me.”
  • Inadequate – Inadequacy is a voice inside of you saying, “I feel like there’s something wrong with me.”
  • Stress – Stress is the voice inside of you saying, “I feel like I have too much to do.”
  • Fear – Fear is a voice inside of you saying, “I think something bad is going to happen.”
  • Frustrated – Frustration is a voice inside saying, “What I’m doing isn’t working!”
  • Depressed – Depression is a voice inside of you saying ”I quit —it hurts too much to continue to try anymore.”
  • Sympathy – Sympathy can cause you to feel “bad” because someone else is hurting. It can also activate emotions from your past through emotional resonance.

Emotions are complex and rather different for each individual, just ask yourself why you feel the way you feel. The answer will come slowly, but it will make you more aware of yourself. This does take time to examine yourself so it will take time and have patience.

Example for me personally I was frustrated and sad, whatever I was doing was not working and I thought I lost something important to me. I understood what my body was telling me and I took action to heal that emotion.

References

Calvin D. Banyan (2003) The Secret Language Of Feelings. Abbot Publishing House, Inc., Minnesota

 

 

 

 

 

The Power Of Desire

I have had recently some new experiences in which I got to feel new feelings and the trill of something that is considered taboo. I desired something new in my life so I decided to take the leap and see where it got me. Under certain other circumstances I wouldn’t do such things; but I live for risk and new experiences. About a few days ago I was flown out to Sacramento for a trip to meet a few businessman who have taken an interest in some of the things I do. All expenses paid for and stayed in a condo; this is where the stories starts.

Arriving around the time of eleven in the morning to Sacramento I was a little exhilarated for the possibilities of what could happen today. Sacramento is rather small for being the capital of California; was taken to the condo and it was beautiful. I new what luxury was when I stepped into the room; everything was brand and nothing less, the service was highest quality and was treated like family and someone important. At around 12:30 I was summoned yes thats how the hostess said to me; already in suit and tie I was ready to meet this powerful man. The meeting was held in the 17 floor with a round table with six individuals sitting around and I was the sixth.

Sitting with this men I could tell no bullshit was allowed and the confidence in this room was something I never felt before. I was rather a little intimidated but I new powerful people like powerful people so I had to be assertive if not this won’t happen. I can’t disclose what happen in the meeting but lets just say I met some new friends. Around 1:30 I walked out and started too walk towards the condo, was offered a ride but decided to explore. On the walk I seen an elderly women who I new was older than me but had features of an 25 year old.

The women name was Alissa black hair,120, 5’4, 32 C waist and curves that would make most younger women envy her. Her hair was well taken care of and she walked with confidence but with a sense of humbleness which caught my attention. I immediately went to talk to her which she was shocked and I asked her if she was in her early thirties and she blushed and said no am fifty. I was taken back I was like fifty? Alissa said yes, I said you look much younger what do you do to stay looking the way you do. Yes, I was flattering but at the same time I meant what I said. She laughed and smiled and said thank you and said I just wash my face do a lot exerciseing and just eat and enjoy life. I new if I wanted to expand this I would have to make the conversation more emotional so I amped up my emotions and I started to see the different tone she took. She was holding my eye contact which I seen as mature and confident within herself which aroused me more.

The conversation became more playful and we started walking and she new I wasn’t from here and asked where you stay at? I thought wow she knows what she wants or she just being polite? I told her the address and she said lets go with a playful smile and touched my elbow. I couldn’t help but smile and wonder if she new about touching and body language. We got to the condo and she asked if I was hungry and I said yes; I asked if she new how to cook, answered yes and teased me for asking. Time went by it was getting late; I found out a lot about her and It was getting around to Six and I went to the bedroom when I came back out the black dress that clung to her body was gone and she was wearing a black laced Victoria Secret braw and panties to match. Alissa smiled and asked if this is what I wanted, I was hypnotized by her beauty and just taking the risk. Decisive she is; this is what I love about older women who know what they want and go for it. I believe this come’s with time and knowing that what society dictates is a bunch of false knowledge.

The details are not necessary but she fell asleep afterwards and I was looking out towards Sacramento,  just contemplating life and wondering why certain things did not go out as planned. Wondering deeply if I could’ve done something differently if not to learn from my experiences and move along. I tend to contemplate things deeper and feel the depth of why some things hurt and other feel great. I attract good things into my life and great individuals to my life. Looking back at the beautiful women in my bed I couldn’t help but wonder if that could’ve of been someone else smiling back to me. Many possibilities and many things that life offers; sometimes we have to understand and just smile.

My Erotic Story

Once I am established as a sex Therapist I will expand my self to write erotica, thank to a good friend who edits my stuff this little story came to live. I appreciate the help she gives me and I hope you guys enjoy. Any improvements or comments are more than welcome so I could be a better writer.

 

I am proud of how healthy I am being a 37-year-old West Los Angeles Health professor. I am quite bored often doing the same mundane things everyday and each year. On February 11, 2012 was the start of a new school and meant new faces. A girl that appeared to be 19 had walked in through the room. She had straight black hair, wore square framed glasses, and had a timid walk. As she walked timidly, her firm thighs caught my attention. Could she have been an athlete? Perhaps she was a volleyball or soccer player? Her body was like wine with that round shaped ass and with a cleavage that spoke of many seasons of growth. For the first time in years I felt an intense desire that I do not even get towards my wife. A voice in my head warned me to keep the distance or else I would not resist.

As class begun, I told everyone to take their books out for Health 11. Before I began to lecture, I told everyone to say his or her name in front of the class. Her name was Jazmine and she said her name with such a low voice and I wondered if she lacked confidence? I was focused on this captivating girl too much. What has me so mesmerized, is it her timidness, youth, or physique? Jesus! It was only the first day and I could already imagine her bending over for me!
“Fuck!” I thought.
I had to behave. She stayed after class and asked for extra work. I asked myself, “Extra credit on the first day?!”
She was obviously an A student. I wondered how far would she go for that letter grade.
I thought, “God she is getting to me!”
I told her to relax and enjoy her first few days of school, it was too soon for extra credit. She gave me a half timid smile and walked away.

On Thursday, I was eager to see her walk through the door and she did not disappoint, she was wearing a short skirt with high socks and a strapless shirt. Do people call that matching now? Well I didn’t think too much of it because all I could think

about is her beauty.

My fantasies started carrying me away as a month passed. She would come in before class to talk to me and stay after class to complete her homework. She would spend extra time regularly that I even thought she must have liked me because she was flirting with me. Was I imagining this? God! I knew I had to be professional about the situation I cannot get involved with my student!

As the last two weeks of class were approaching on April 20, 2012 I had reacted. Today she came in with a short skirt again, but this time without high knee socks. She wore a revealing shirt that exposed her perfect cleavage. I was way over my head and lusted for her. This primal feeling of wanting to bend her over and shove my cock into her was driving me insane. I wondered how loud she could moan. She stayed again after class and I closed the door. She gave me a little timid smile and acted nervously when I looked at her. Jazmine was working on the health project I gave out two weeks ago. She fumbled her pencil and completely blushed. As soon as I tried to pick it up she ended in my arms. I could not resist myself any longer and ignore this gorgeous woman who was at her prime. Fuck! Her cleavage was just asking to be stroked and played with. I soon felt my hard on and by the looks of it Jazmine did too. She got up quickly and blushed even harder while looking at my boner. “I have to go,” she said.
I grabbed her hand and brought her closer to me while I told her not to. She did not hesitate and I could feel her massive chest while I kissed her and she passionately kissed me back with a low moan. We were currently on the top floor and it was around 8pm, no one would be able to hear us. This was my fantasy; this was all I wanted for the past two months. I wanted her and I could tell she wanted me as well. I kissed her and pushed her against the wall with force. She was ecstatic that I was not gentle with her. My wife couldn’t even make me feel this alive! Wow, she was biting her lips and moving her hips against my cock. I tore off her shirt, I didn’t care anymore I wanted her naked. Wow! They were the most beautiful breasts I have ever

seen; they were nice, round, and perky. They were far from being saggy and small. I rubbed and kissed them, I even bit the nipples and she responded with a loud moan. I immediately thought we were going to get caught, but I didn’t care I just wanted her. I grabbed her and I bent her over my desk. Who wouldn’t want to fuck their teacher? I pulled up her skirt and tore off her underwear. She was laying on the table looking at me with desire. Her eyes told me to fuck her like I never fucked anyone before. I didn’t hesitate to take off my clothes and she asked if I had a condom and I told her I didn’t, but I was not going to let this opportunity pass me by so I shoved my cock into her vagina and I swear I could have climaxed instantly! Her wetness was pouring down and her young pussy was tight; either she was a virgin or have not had sex in a while. Her moan echoed across the room and even down the hall. Fuck! How hot is this? I began to pound her softer to see if she could take in my full erect penis in her. She moaned and asked me to fuck her harder as I gladly did. My throbbing penis inside her vagina felt like heaven as she was breathing harder and harder. Lustfully, I picked her skirt up and spanked her right cheek hard and she jerked forward and let out a loud moan. I was going to be rough, I spanked her other cheek as she drove her nails in the table and gave out another moan. She cried out for more and I spanked her again. This girl was so kinky she desired a rough hand. I got out of her and went down on her on the table, her vagina was really pink and smelled aroused. The smell was beautiful, I licked her clitoris and she came almost instantly, it landed on my face and the taste turned me on so I turned her around, grabbed her, picked her up and put her against the window while I fucked her against it. I hope no one was outside looking at me fucking this young woman.

 

Why Women Get Attached Faster Than Man

One of the observations I have noticed is that women get attached faster than man and I hear women complaining often about this. I wondered why in general males tend to get attached much slower than women. One thing you will have to remember is that biology plays a big part in courting and mating.

There are two hormones we will have to pay attention to that have a great impact when having intercourse and afterwards. One of the chemicals is called Oxytocin “A hormone made in the brain that plays a role in childbirth and lactation by causing muscles to contract in the uterus (womb) and the mammary glands in the breast. Animal studies have shown that oxytocin also has a role in pair bonding, mate-guarding, and social memory.” When having intercourse and about to climax the brain “Oxytocin is a peptide (a compound consisting of 2 or more amino acids) that is secreted by the hypothalamus and transported to the posterior lobe of the pituitary gland at the base of the brain” Yes every brain in a human being is very advanced. Basically what they are saying is that oxytocin is release after intercourse which gives you the feeling of relax and comfort and this aura feeling.

The one other major hormone is testosterone which is largely known for sexual drive and making a man more aggressive. Every individual has testosterone but it varies upon males and females. There has been studies in mice in which males who have more testosterone get attached less and are less likely to be protective off their offspring. The reason is that testosterone counters oxytocin and estrogen. An example “Considering the parallel inhibitory effects of testosterone on both pup sensitization and number of OT neurons, we postulate that sex differences in parental responsiveness facilitated by repeated pup exposure were caused by an inhibitory effect of testosterone via the OT neural system in mice.” In other words the more testosterone a mice had the more likely they would not get attached.

Females have less testosterone in general so they get attached more easily for parenting reasons. If a male has little bit of testosterone and releases oxytocin he will more likely be monogamous and stay faithful. The less sexual drive he will have will show in his parenting manners and less in having intercourse with various partners.

References
definition of Oxytocin
Definition of Testosterone
Why Testosterone inhibits attachment
How Vasopressin and Oxytocin release in the brain after intercourse

Shame and Sexuality

One of the aspects I have notice regarding sexuality is that so many people are ashamed of there bodies or sexuality in general. I have grown to see this in women and in males particular with women, but why is that people are so ashamed of their sexuality, desires, or there bodies. I will not be referencing in this blog post; it was more of an idea that popped into my mind.

Culture tends to develop a person one way or another; different cultures around the world make people behave differently. This is one reason why a person traveling to another culture might not understand why a person behaves the way they behave. In some cultures and religion individuals are forced to marry before being sexually active with anyone and if you go against the rules you are dammed or deemed as a bad person. Many people look for love and caring from their family; and imagine being seen bad for enjoying your sexuality? Not to mention in some cultures a women clitoris is chopped of because the man are afraid of a women enjoying to much pleasure and she might cheat.

Sexual abuse is a sensitive topic because people are forced to give there bodies up for another person pleasure or for wealth. Many traumas are hardwired into are brain because the trauma is emotionalized so are brain will remember the event and might unconsciously be affecting are decisions. This entirely is unfair because sexual consent should be something that two or three or four individuals should agree on. When a person is forced to anything they desire not to do it could affect them in many psychological ways.

Social media portrays sexuality or an image that people should live up to. This could make people belief that if  a person does not live up to such image they feel they are worthless. I see this more with women when they are buying many products to look as beautiful as possible to please another individual. Or when women diet to such extremes to live up to an image which at times takes more dedication than most people could possibly give. This reflects when individuals are having intercourse and all of a sudden they become ashamed or respond negatively when touched or being naked a front of an individual.

A penis and a vagina is natural for humans to have, this is not something which we should be ashamed about. The human body is very attractive and appealing it is not something a person should be ashamed of showing if they so choose to. Sexual consent is something that should be practiced and not forced upon. Sexual education for anyone at any age is something that is certainly recommended to expand once knowledge, but also improve ones sexual life.

Sexual Appeal and How it differs from Person

Sexual appeal is different for each individual some are rather more active than other individuals. I will show you how imbalances in chemicals in brain could lead to a more decline in sexuality and how brain structure and habits will change  the brain structure and how you revive the sexual drive you once had. There will be a lot of research, but just read on and it will all make sense.

Sexual drive could be affected by according to (Webmed}”Any number of things, some physical and some psychological. Sometimes it’s both.Physical issues that can cause low libido include low testosterone, prescription medicines, too little or too much exercise, and alcohol and drug use. Psychological issues can include depression, stress, and problems in your relationship.About 4 out of 10 men over age 45 have low testosterone. While testosterone replacement therapy remains somewhat controversial, it’s also a common solution to the problem.” Not to mention the food you eat which plays a big part in your life in general. One of the things overlooked sometimes is brain damage cause by accidents, seizures, strokes, concussions, and minor injuries from sports which do occur.

Chemicals that I am aware of which are realesed when having intercourse are Dopamine, Norepinephrine,Oxytocin,Testosterone, and serotonin which are just a few and its pretty amazing how much work are brain does, its a pretty high tech computer. Each chemical does different things

  • Dopamine – Is a feel good chemical
  • Norepinephrine – Get’s the person excited
  • Testosterone – Makes an individual more aggressive and is a sexual hormone and man need testosterone more than women which helps with mood, thinking, sexual drive.
  • Serotonin – Calms the individual down
  • Oxytocin – Natural relaxer and lowers pain

I’ll provide a link for you could read a more clear understanding.

At one point in science it was thought of that ones you reach a certain age the brain stops learning and growing. Now we know that is not true which means anyone could recover from injuries.  According to (Stanford) “Because of this belief, scientists also thought that if a particular area of the adult brain was damaged, the nerve cells could not form new connections or regenerate, and the functions controlled by that area of the brain would be permanently lost. However, new research on animals and humans has overturned this mistaken old view: today we recognize that the brain continues to reorganize itself by forming new neural connections throughout life. This phenomenon, called neuroplasticity, allows the neurons in the brain to compensate for injury and adjust their activity in response to new situations or changes in their environment.” Basically the brain continues to regenerate itself as you do new things.

Cognitive therapy is aimed at fixing certain thought process which a person has and is leading to unwanted behavior. Cognitive therapy definition is ” Cognitive therapy is a psychosocial therapy that assumes that faulty cognitive, or thought, patterns cause maladaptive behavior and emotional responses. The treatment focuses on changing thoughts in order to adjust psychological and personality problems.” Basically challenging the way you think about something could possibly result in a different behavior. One way or another you are telling yourself certain things through out the day. Why not change the way you think and do to get different results?

Sexual appeal differs from person to person because of many factors such as stated above. Some individuals believe they cannot change because there are the way they are; it is just a belief which your brain will change ones you do something different which comes from beliefs. Essentially what am saying is that you could be better at anything with a little effort and telling yourself new things. How do you think you got where you are at now; it literally just beliefs and thoughts. You could literally reconditioned yourself to be more sexual.

How you ask? For starters focus more on sexuality; this will lead you to think more about sex. Read more about intercourse and relationships and you will start to understand more. Have more intercourse this will recondition your brain and you will overall feel better from having intercourse. Change your diet and exercise a little more; meditate if you have a lot of stress. Change your habits and you change who you are as a person.

References
Cognitive Therapy – Purpose, Treatment techniques, Preparation, Typical results
Amagydla defintion
Five brain chemicals that are released during intercourse
Neuroplasticity Research
Reasons why you may have low libido;

The difference between Orgasm and Ejaculation

There is a huge difference between having an orgasm and ejaculating. When having an orgasm this is what is happening “There is a combination of things that come in effect when it comes to an orgasm in the brain. Neurotransmitters, and neuro-peptides for example, are heavily involved in the sexual response. To reach an orgasm, the central nervous system sends orders to the heart, so that it pumps faster, sending blood to oxygenate the increase of blood flow in muscles involved in sexual activity. Nitric oxide, serotonin, dopamine, epinephrine, and norepinephrine, are just a few of the neurotransmitters and neuro-peptides involved in sexual activity. Nitric oxide (NO) plays a critical role in both male and female sexuality.” Which is pretty remarkable that all of this is happening in the brain to have orgasm. To have an orgasm is a feeling you get all over your body which is chemicals going off all together. There still much research to do to see how exactly each chemcial fuse together to make an orgasm happen.

To take a detour “In penile erections, NO stimulates the release of guanylate cyclase, which, in turn, converts GTP to cGMP and produces relaxation of smooth muscles and increased blood flow into the penis. This information is used in the popular drug sildenafil (ViagraTM) that inhibits the metabolism of cGMP to prolong the effects of the erection” which I did not know this was the chemical that helps prolong maintain an erection. If you closer into the above paragraph cGMP is meant to increase blood flow which also needs air flow to help keep an erect penis. If you have a hard time keeping an erect penis then exercise, eat vegetable and fruit, stop drinking soda, drink water, stop stressing and you will be able to maintain an erection.

Now ejaculation is the actual release of fluids.

Sexual stimulation and friction provide the impulses that are delivered to the spinal cord and into the brain. Ejaculation is a reflex action controlled by the central nervous system. It is triggered when the sexual act reaches a critical level of excitement. It has two phases.

  • In the first phase, the vas deferent (the tubes that store and transport sperm from the testes) contract to squeeze the sperm toward the base of the penis and the —-prostate gland and seminal vesicles release secretions to make semen. At this stage, the ejaculation is unstoppable.
  • In the second phase, muscles at the base of penis contract every 0.8 seconds and force the semen out of the penis in up to 5 spurts.

The difference is orgasm is a mental thing and ejaculation is an actual release of fluids. In other words you could have multiple orgasms without actually realsing and type of fluid. This goes for both male and femals and usually is more referred to women but as a male you could have multiple orgasms with practice and breathing techniques.

 

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