A part of the process of becoming a sex therapist is to actually speak to a therapist before you graduate. Even though I won’t graduate soon I decided to speak to one to understand why I associate sexuality and relationships together. I have noticed that a way to connect with someone deeply I must have intercourse with the individual. I figured this is normal but i might put too much emphasis on intercourse.
Speaking to a therapist many individuals believe you must have a mental illness. The truth is the opposite is having someone who has no association with you see you objectively and give you feedback. You could be entirely honest because you have no association with the person across you and it helps the other person give you concrete advice or assessment.
Speaking to this individual we regressed to my childhood. I figured that my early years in having intercourse made my brain wire itself in the form of associating intimacy with intercourse. Which the individual suggested it isn’t a bad thing but on extreme levels it could be harmful to any form of relationship. regressing more into many different relationships we notice many highly sexual relationships which conditioned me and reinforced beliefs in my subconscious.
The interesting aspect of this was if I desire a monogamous relationship many beliefs I have had for thirteen years would have to alter and change. This is also a problem in the dating world of seduction. Many individuals are sold on dating many women but aren’t seeing the side effects of beliefs you have to adopt to continue such a lifestyle. Which I have spoken to my mentor on this issue and many individuals have notice that within the industry.
This is the bad aspect of living this lifestyle when you desire change. it isn’t simple and requires time. There is a big difference in dating one individual and dating multiple individuals, I am speaking to the people who have been with over twenty individuals or over three digits. If a male is reading this I do recommend getting experience but just know what is the end goal and have a passion which will fuel you’re life.